Know those saloon doors in the Old West—no knobs and no locks? The cowboys just swung on in the bar and then sashayed right out of there after a pint and a pistol-whippin. That’s how your communication should flow—stimuli come in, you feel something and you express what you feel so that it comes out fast and smooth.
Doing this makes you feel like a safe, no-drama, and no-mystery woman. See, men don’t like mystery the way you’ve heard others advise. Only the commitment phobes want to play those childish games. Real men like our depth—that’s what’s mysterious for them. They're captivated and intrigued by our ability to feel things on a deep level. Our vivid, beautiful, dark emotional lives are enchanting and enigmatic to men.
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So many of us women are like most men—we’ve been taught to hide our feelings behind nurturing and giving and taking care of others. However, all that mothering is smothering and controlling. You are actually controlling a man when you try to mother him; you are controlling him to control your scary inner world.
It’s time stop hiding from your feelings and dive into a goddess world of soft, sensual, tender, tear-lined, laughter-filled edges. It’s time to date the men you feel are naturally easy to get along with. It's time to be the center of the relationship and not move around working for a man. It's time to fondue your rough edges and be sensual and vulnerable. Finally, it's time to hold a man’s feelings and be transparent so that he feels safe with you.
Check out my eBook, Red Rose Woman: The Enchantress Inside You. It’s all about empowered living—whether you're single and practicing Empowered Dating or in a relationship and thriving as the queen bee. My eBook gives you the tools to stop letting limited men dwindle your Female Fire and keep you from finding Mr. Right, who will further empower you as the enchanting goddess you are!
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