He's Just Not That Into You...Yet.

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He's Just Not That Into You...Yet.
How to be the exception to the rule...

6. If you come upon a male drought after you start your dating adventures it means you need to stop putting all your energy on men and start upping your level of self care and fun

Holy Moly, Jenn it super sux when you have tons of fantastic male attention, and then nothing. (insert cricket sounds) What the heck am I doing wrong? Nothing. Well…actually, from my personal experience I always found that my male droughts coincided with being too caught up in men and not enough of me time. So yes, it is a SIGN, that you should take a personal assessment of your life… Are you taking great care of yourself physically, spiritually, spending time with your gals, with your family, neglecting your job…etc and so forth. Find the area you are neglecting and tweak a bit. After you tweak, make sure you are not doing the tunnel vision routine and scout out a new delicious man to flirt with.

7. When you open up your options for dating you increase exception visibility

Okay, I am going to say something that probably will piss a few people off. Men like their women as they like their high dollar toys: someone that everybody wants, but not just anybody can have. This is why while dating, seeing more than one man until you have exclusivity is so important. I am NOT talking about telling him about the other men you are seeing. (I am also NOT talking about intentionally trying to make him jealous or think that you are sleeping with other men) I am talking about having genuine options in men, and genuine options about who you choose to be exclusive with. You only have genuine options when you date more than one man that you have a genuine interest in getting to know better. Jeez, that was a whole lotta of genuine! The more true options you have increase his ability to see you as an exception instead of the rule.

8. The Exception always has her own rules

The unforgettable women always plays by her own rules without being a nagging bitch. Which means, you always require him to honor your boundaries and still have a great time too. Sex happens only when you are ready. He doesn’t get to go out with you that evening if he has called several hours late. Dates don’t only happen at his house. You get the idea.

9. When you encounter bad behavior from a man change “He’s just not that into me” to “He’s just not that into me, yet”

I believe many women throw out a lot of great men from their dating adventures because they consider all male infractions deal breakers. With the exception of a few unforgivable behaviors (i.e. abuse of any kind, humiliation, alcoholism, drug abuse, married or committed to someone else, etc) most men just haven’t met the woman that they are ready to leave the behaviors behind for. Also, a lot of male behaviors are not really all that bad, especially when you have a very full and exciting life of your own. I encourage all of you to use this phrase when you encounter these behaviors: “He’s just not that into me, yet.”

For many people black and white just works. Which is why “He is just not that into you” was incredibly helpful and popular. I personally find “He’s just not that into you, yet” so much more freeing. It all comes down to a choice. Do you want to be the exception or the rule? I got tired of being the rule so I chose to be the exception by using the strategies I outlined for you. It has blessed me time and time again in my love life, and I still am sweet on being my man’s exception. So few women actually choose to be the exception that the choice in itself already makes them exceptional.

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