He's Just Not That Into You...Yet.

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He's Just Not That Into You...Yet.
How to be the exception to the rule...

Being a man-hater severely impairs your ability to be the exception because you by default are setting up every man in your world to fail with you. Likewise, if you believe that the pool of men in your age group is insanely limited, well I am here to remind you that people these days are moving in and out of relationships at all times and all ages. So that means, there are tons of options available. Also I am gong to let you in on another secret, options don’t always come wrapped in perfect bows and manners. The adored woman learns how to inspire all types of men to treat her well.

3. If he hasn’t asked you for exclusivity, then quit acting exclusive

 

Oh I remember the days… going out on a few dates and then impatiently wondering when were we going to officially be an item. I would start to analyse every conversation we had, when he called, when he didn’t call. I made sure I looked like perfect girlfriend material (scary note: I had no idea what a perfect girlfriend was) Then I would obsess some more, and almost every single time he ended up with someone else. This for some reason took me the longest to understand, so I feel it’s my duty to save you from more mental anguish. If he hasn’t asked you to be exclusive, then you should be dating other men as well. No matter how you spin it, you will appear mentally unstable, needy, and clingy if you don’t keep your options open until he asks you for exclusivity and you agree. I want to be very clear that this DOES NOT mean you have to stop seeing him. It simply means that tunnel vision is not sexy and attractive. It also very rarely helps you be the exception except with men that are unstable themselves.

4. If you are not the exception, consider it your universal protection

Oh it is soo soo easy to get caught in he is the only one I want. I’ll tell you right now, it’s a cop-out, it’s a defense mechanism, and it’s a huge reason why you aren’t getting what you want in your love life. If you want to have your way with men you must must must open yourself up to the possibilities. You also must understand that if he doesn’t end up being yours, you are being protected. Whether that means he is truly not good for you or that somebody more amazing is on his way. A truly adored woman understands that she will have what she wants and trusts the process.

5. If you aren’t willing to ask for what you want, then know it is likely he will cast you aside in his mind

Men really would like the opportunity to make you happy. You are so much fun to be around when you are happy. You are intoxicatingly delicious when you are happy. So why not learn to ask for what you want from the beginning? Why torture him by making him figure it all out and then get pissed off at him when he doesn’t. OR why would you be the woman who doesn’t have her own likes, dislikes, opinions, friends, and life? Remember you are on an adventure too, he would like to be included. Women who know what they want and enjoy their lives are so freakin hot. Especially when they include men along for the ride. So the next time he asks you what you want to do, don’t you dare reply with “Whatever.”

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
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Jenn Burton

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Jenn Burton is the creator of http://HaveHimYourWay.com, Online Dating Expert/Profile Writer, and Romantic Fairy Godmomma for Smart Successful Single Women all around the world. As a professional online profile writer, she loves using online dating to help her clients meet men. (And she is really freakin good at it, too,)  These days, Jenn exclusively works with single women who want it all: career, success, & to be loved, adored & romanced... She can show you how to draw in stable, fun, witty, loving men that you will be insanely attracted to. Magic included, no evil step sisters required.

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