Statistics Canada released findings that couples are marrying later, having children later and living longer. This is also true in the U.S., with similar trends as the Census Bureau from 1890 through to 2012 shows. In the U.K., a 2013 report from National Statistics suggests these same trend lines. These findings are showing up as well, with long-term outcomes in marriage eighty percent of the time for women who have university degrees and marry later than twenty-five years old. I believe that the statistics of marrying later is a positive development leading to you to make better choices in relationships because marrying later will give you more time to develop and to differentiate yourself as an individual, which in turn, will provide you more stability and longevity in marriage.
The outcome of developing yourself emotionally, intellectually, and financially will be less overall stress. So even when you are in the pre-marriage stage, or between relationships, take your time! Enjoy dating you, courting you and the process of envisioning your future. Build your career and be a life-long learner.
What, in your wildest dreams, might be your best life? You will need to know what you want if you want to attract your best life into action! And it is one thing to love someone, but you need to love the life you live together. So why not spend some time this Valentine’s month being curious about yourself and the life you truly want.
Here are five powerful questions you might consider as you anticipate February:
- When is the last time in your life you felt most alive and passionate?
- Is there any course you might like to take that would improve your capacity at work or home?
- When you consider your whole self—body, mind and spirit—what needs attention?
- How much fun have you been having lately?
- In your social circles, who makes you come alive the most? Can you spend more time with them and less time with those that don’t?
I know for myself, I feel very grateful, alive and passionate when I am walking, jogging, or just being in the natural environment. I’ve experienced puffy-eyed times in my life and a brief walk around the block seemed to shift my perspective of loneliness. I came across this YouTube link about gratitude. From a young child’s perspective to the wisdom of an elder in this video, we are reminded to go outside the box.
This is your life. This is your day. It is a gift.
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