The Better Your Boundaries, The Greater Your Freedom


The Better Your Boundaries, The Greater Your Freedom
Carpe Diem, Tempus Fugit, Personal Boundaries & "Push Through"

Carpe Diem, Tempus Fugit, Personal Boundaries & “Push Through”

Take a look at the Xbox Commercial called “Life is Short, Play More”.
This shortie is hilarious…your morning giggle. But watch carefully. Is that a metaphor for your life??

What kind of life do you want to lead? Is there some special peak experience that you have always wanted to do? Do you dare to dream? Or do you often get side tracked with external random requests that distract you from your ideal path? Lots of people don’t even attempt to envision a game plan for their best life.

This blog is a Call to Action to you to Push Through your perceived road blocks:
Do your kids need you to drive?  Consider a car pool; Is your desk is covered in unfinished files? Prioritize and delegate; Is your Buddha Belly taking over? Stop eating gluten!

We all have challenges in our lives. But these difficulties are more easily surmountable if we can devise a personal life game plan. If we know where we want to go with our lives we can set priorities that will help us to Push Through the storms of every day living  towards our better life.

You need to say no to some things so that you open up time in your life to operationalize what you actually really want to get going on. Establishing strong personal boundaries may be the secret to living your most fulfilled life. Be accountable to changes you need to make. Push Through your fear of saying no sometimes. ‘No’ is one of those messages that can be either a doorstopper or a dooropener. Because when you say no to some things, you can say yes to the things that you want more of.

Of course that all makes sense, so why do we get so out of control in our lives?

How much time do you spend with people and ideas that make you feel positive and energized? It is so important to focus some of your time on the things that bring you resonance (when you feel your life is in the zone). And be aware that you can just say no to the things that give you dissonance (those people and ideas that make you feel scattered and distracted).

Do you find that with your busy schedule, you are longing for a chance to consider how you might improve your life but are too busy keeping up in the ‘rat race’ to do anything about it? I love the term ‘rat race’ because rats are not known for having boundaries! If you have had any rates show up in your walls at home, you know what I’m talking about!

Actually there have been a number of experiments designed to figure out where the boundary coding mechanism is set in the hippocampus of a rat. We are all encoded with patterns we have observed in our families and inherited through our DNA. The upper cortical brain is where all our higher functioning, decision making and emotional processing occurs. Have you ever wondered why some people are so good at letting things roll off their back and others seem to constantly attract chaos and drama?

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Mrs. Jo-Anne Weiler, M.A., R.M.F.T., R.C.C.


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