Speaking of expectations, many of you who are considering divorce have fantasies about a better life afterwards. You think that if you were only free from the chains that bind you to this person, you would be free and able to pursue true fulfillment and contentment. And while the impetus for this feeling is perfectly understandable, you have to be very cautious about taking a course of action based on such a fantasy. Our fate is often to wind up in a situation that was never foreseen, and certainly not desired. Be sure that your ideas about a better life have a chance of happening in the real world - and if they do, than don't hesitate.
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How Will Life Get Worse?
The corollary to the above question is obvious. It is completely possible that your circumstances will change for the worse if you go through with a divorce. You could have financial problems, you could be estranged from children, you could lose family relationships and the approval of people close to you, you could harm your reputation in a close-knit community. All of these disadvantages are valid and should be considered.
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What’s In It For You?
The biggest question is the most obvious one - is this the best thing for you to do at this point in your life, all things considered? It's the all things considered part that matters here, because it is rarely the case that a person considering a divorce has carefully thought through all of the possible results and ramifications of their actions. You are the one who is making the decision, and you are the one who will have to live with the consequences of that choice. If you have given careful thought to the possibilities and have made an informed decision based on reality, not fantasy, then you have done your best in a difficult situation. That's all anyone can expect from you.