A 7-Step Beginner's Guide To Swinging (Because You're Curious)

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Having sex with other couples can be really hot IF you're all on the same page.

The swinglifestyle is nothing new. The concept of swingers and swinging has been around for years. The only difference is that people have started talking about it more openly.

If you and your honey would like to get a little kinky and experiment with this sexual adventure, you're probably looking for a way to start your journey. In this article, we'll help you get started with your swinger couples adventure.

So how should you go about being a new swinger couple in the swinging lifestyle? Here are seven things that you must discuss and do before you start swinging. 

1. Figure out why you want to swing... 

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The first step is to open up about your kinky thoughts with your partner. When a couple decides to get into this lifestyle, both partners should first openly communicate their feelings to each other to create a comfortable atmosphere.

There can be many reasons for taking up a swinging lifestyle. You both might want to experience the pleasure of a shared sexual relationship or simply want to spice up your intimate life with new adventures.

But if you're looking for ways to mend the flaws in your relationship, you'll be left disappointed. The swinging lifestyle is only for healthy couples looking for sheer pleasure.

2. ... and how do you want to swing. 

There are plenty of options to explore swinging lifestyle. You can begin with locally organized swinger parties or jump to lavish swinger cruises. The choice is totally yours. It would depend on your budget, kink preferences, and the degree of excitement you're looking for.

The chances are you may be looking forward to playing with a few of your fantasies that you may have never explored before.

3. Set some ground rules.

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If you're new to this lifestyle, it is important to set some rules for each other before indulging. For example, if you are both going to a swinging event and either one of you wants to leave early, it should be perfectly fine (or not) for the other person to stay behind.

Other rules may include factors related to being in the same room or being comfortable seeing your partner having intimacy with the same sex. Make sure you talk about all these things up front.

4. Work on building up your confidence. 

If you want to take part in this lavish lifestyle, you should start working on your persona. People only like to pick or approach others who exhibit a great personality and confident look.

Whether you're looking for a swinging partner online or at a club, make sure you display the best of your persona to attract the most people. Lots of swinging couples use fake names as an identity, and it is perfectly acceptable in the swinging world.

5. Consider meeting couples online first. 

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If you're not sure about attending a live swinger party or joining a club initially, you can always find other not-so-open swinger couples online. It's a great place to meet others swingers.

The Internet is full of online dating sites where you get to find a lot of people sharing the similar interest. All you need to is create a catchy profile, upload your photos and start your search through member profiles.

6. Plan to meet before hooking up.

After you've found the couples or individuals matching your criteria, you can talk to them on the phone or simply arrange a meeting. It is ideal to meet the potential swinger couples the first time first, so you can see whether they look or talk the same as they did online. If you don't feel a connection, simply move on.

7. Eventually, check out a swinging club.

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There are probably more swingers clubs in your vicinity than you would have imagined. A quick online search will help you know the exact location. A bit of online research will also help you know how to participate in such events. If you're interested in being a part of such clubs or parties, always make sure you dress up nicely and look good. Also, try to show up on time so you don't miss out on any fun.

Adopting a swinging lifestyle is not difficult if you and your partner are aware of what's the course of the action. Whether it's going to a swinger party, a swingers club or indulging in a swinger cruise, it can give you the most amazing moments of your life.

If you and your partner wish to be on the hit list of swinger couples, you will need to make sure that you understand your desires and let others do the same. Do not keep any expectations from this lifestyle, and keep yourself open and available at all times to make the most of your swinging lifestyle.

The swinger lifestyle should be fun and exciting. It should only be pursued by couples who are truly enjoying themselves.

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