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6 Dependable Tests To Figure Out If He's REALLY Single


Dating is tough enough without having men lie about their relationship status. Let's solve this!

Hello my wonderful readers! Gregg here, and we need to talk about an important dating for women subject. There is nothing more that irritates me more than when a guy pretends he is single, while really he is married or deep in a relationship.

This is the first of two postsfirst, to give you the signs, and second, to give you the tests to expose him!

1. He Doesn't Give You His Cell Number.

Men don't worry about safety when it comes to dating new women. We don't need to too, for the most part, we are bigger and tougher than you guys. The only reason we don't give it up is because we don't want the other woman to find out.

2. He Is Scheduling Day Time Dates With You.

You may think he is just a good guy, right? And maybe he is, but guys rarely schedule daytime datesfor one reason, sex doesn't happen during the day! I know, I'm being shallow and you don't want to date a guy like this anyway, but guys think about sex all day long, even the good guys.

It is in our DNA to schedule a date on Friday or Saturday night. Why? We have a better chance of having sex with you! That said, I want you to schedule daytime dates, just not him!

3. He Never Texts You After 7 p.m.

Ok, let's say you got his cell number. Cool. But guys in relationships are scoundrels, many have multiple numbers. If you are getting texts during the day but they "dry up" when the sun goes down, guess what? He is with his wife or live in girlfriend.

4. He Makes Excuses When Asked About A Weekend Trip.

I know this sounds crazy but, as many of you know, I am a Dear Abner for women and I get about 30 emails every day. I have had several women that have been duped, through no fault of their own, by married guys!

An overnight is almost impossible for a man who is in a relationship unless he travels all the time for work.

5. He Gets Interrupted When You're On A Date.

Yes, it could be his boss, but it could also be his girlfriend. If he gets up and walks away from you for privacy, this should raise some red flags. When I am on a date with a woman that I like, I am not taking calls that are not important. A wife or a girlfriend calling is very important.

6. He Goes MIA.

I saved the best (or worst) for last. You know the script, everything is going just dandy and SNAPwhere did Mr. Beautiful-Blue-Eyes disappear to for three days? He will most likely have a great excuse that goes something like:

  • "I lost my phone and had to replace it."
  • "I was really busy with work."
  • "I had to help my sister move."
  • "I left you a message, didn't you get it?"

I don't about you but when I lose my phone. My life is redirected to the Verizon store in the first five minutes. And even when I'm really busy, it takes all of 15 seconds to fire off a text while I rest on the couch. Didn't get the message? Ah, no.

To Sum It All Up:

Ladies, take this dating advice and apply it to every guy you date. But, Gregg, aren't you being too cynical? Shouldn't you give guys the benefit of the doubt? After all, he is paying for dinners and he is has been nothing but a gentlemen. No! No! No! And NO!

You are in the early dating screening process. Lose the rose colored glasses through which you are seeing his beautiful blue eyes and switch back to common sense. Test men that you are dating! If you don't, you might get burned later.

Remember, you are a high value woman and high value women have other options, set boundaries and make guys prove their worth through their actions.

Next week's blog? 6 tests to prove that he is single!

This article was originally published at My blog for women. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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