5 Ways To Occupy Love


There is plenty of love to go around!

1. We have the capacity to love infinitely. Imagine a mother with 10 children. She loves all of her children. She has the capacity to love all 10 children, along with her own 10 siblings, and her 50 good friends. Whether she loves them equally is based on her relationship with each one, and the amount of love they are willing to receive, and accept, based on how much they love themselves.

2. Want happiness for your partner, lover and best friend. After recognizing that everyone has the infinite ability to love, then you must allow yourself the infinite ability to give love and this is best done by wanting your lover, partner, spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc. to be happy. If they are flirting with someone at a party, instead of feeling jealous, try to put yourself in your partner's shoes. Does this make him/her happy? If so, make room for allowance. A little flirtation never hurt anyone, and in fact...it may make for better sex.


3. Accepting (loving) their past. If love is infinite, this should make it easier to accept ex's, past relationships, familial ties, etc—that ex-boyfriend that she still talks to or that strange relationship he has with his mother. You will now be able to make more allowances for them to exist. They do not take away from how much your partner loves you. Getting Past The Past

4. Letting go will bring more love your way. When you make allowances for others to love others freely, you open the door for more love in your life. It's simple: your partner will feel more accepted, appreciated and less judged by you, and in turn will be able to feel for you the love that you deserve. Change Today To Save Your Relationship

5. Not just love, but also friendships, work relationships and even polyamorous relationships may also blossom and bloom (if you so desire). Letting go of the pie theory of love means letting go of jealousy and insecurity on a greater level, which can in turn attract more people into our life as well. Beyond a primary relationship, maybe you just want better relationships with family members or better relationships with your ex's. Maybe you just want better friendships, which are not tinged with ownership. If you're of the polyamorous type, this kind of thinking can help sustain your primary relationship and all other relationships long into the future. Recognizing there is plenty of love to go around is key in being non-monogamous as well.

So...make the decision to "Occupy Love", and watch your relationships blossom! 3 Ways To Love Yourself First This Valentine's Day

To Get More Satisfaction out of your Relationships and Sex Life
Visit Moushumi Ghose, Sex Therapist in Los Angeles

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Moushumi Ghose

Sex Therapist

Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

Mou is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

Mou is the band leader, composer and voice of the rock band Ghosha.

Visit her website at www.LASexTherapist.com

Subscribe to The Sex Talk Series at www.TheSexTalkSeries.com

Listen to podcasts at Sex, Love and Rock 'N' Roll Radio.

Mou is the author of Marriage, Money and Porn, available on Amazon, and is currently writing her second book, about non-monogamous sex. 


Follow Moushumi on Twitter @MoushumiAmour and Facebook

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LMFT, MA, MFT
Other Articles/News by Moushumi Ghose:

5 Ways To (Finally) Stop Falling For The Bad Boy


We've all heard the reasons why you are chasing the emotionally unavailable bad boys; "you want to save them" or "you think you can fix them." Your therapist tells you that you're trying to resolve something from your childhood like an absent or negligent parent, which your friends translate to, "oh, you have daddy (or ... Read more

Being Single Isn't The End Of The World—10 Reasons Why It Rocks!


I have regular reflections in the art of relationships. I surmise over the jealousy, the fights and the troubled sex that often ensues over time. I sometimes wish that being single were a more revered way of life. I think if singlehood was more acceptable then we, as a collective society, would be much happier and at peace with being by ourselves. We would be ... Read more

5 Steps To Take If You're In A Seriously Unhealthy Relationship


Things inevitably go sour in relationships, sometimes during an argument, and sometimes just for a day, a week, and sometimes for longer. Try as you might to implement tips and tricks from the "better your relationship" trade from self help books, talk shows, seeing a couples therapist, and recommendations from friends and family, things may not seem ... Read more

See More

My Videos
Must-see Videos
Most Popular