The sun DOESN'T always shine.
Many people don't realize this, but spring brings on it's own kind of seasonal affective disorder. In our society, we associate winter and hibernation effects such as longer nights, more darkness and colder weather with the symptoms of depression, but few recognize that the changes that occur in Spring, can also usher in it's own set of variations.
Every year right after Daylight Savings Time, the weather gets warmer, the days longer and there is a buzz in the air. Vitality and energy increases, and for most this simply means opportunities for more activity. For others, the restlessness can lead to shifts and changes, which may ultimately change the course of their lives.
Spring is naturally a time for change. Spring cleaning, breaking out of old habits, and general shifts all seem more natural when more light is available.
But, what does this mean for your relationships? If things are not going as they should, Springtime can shed light on the outside world of opportunities, which is not necessarily a bad thing—unless you want to hold on to what you've got.
Did you know you can weather proof your relationship? Couples who spend time together, and make plans together seem to do better. In spring, it's common to want to get out, right? So it's easy to make plans, with friends, and with family. But, it is also just as important to make sure you make just as many plans, if not more plans with your significant other. Spring is the best time to nurture your relationship.
Here are some tips to maintaining a strong connection with your partner, which can pull you through many seasonal changes.
1. Take the time to listen to your partner. Ask questions about what they want this summer, this year, or in five years. Do they want to travel? Do they have any new goals at work? What would they like to change?
2. Think out loud. Remember it's just a conversation. You have idea, needs, wants, fantasies, so why not share them with your partner? Nothing is written in stone, this is just brainstorming. Together.
3. Make plans together. It's easy to make plans with friends, and with groups but make plans for just the two of you. So based on what you've discussed together, and have heard each other say, make some concrete plans. And don't just make plans, execute them. Take the reins, even if its something as simple as a picnic in the park. It's these times spent together, and the things that you do to go out of your way, that show your commitment to the relationship.
The goal is to really hear your partner and be present for the relationship. Neglect and absence are surefire ways to encourage and feed that buzzing restlessness associated with spring fever in any relationship. These steps can be employed at any time, spring or not. Spring isn't the only time relationships fall prey to neglect, so follow these steps anytime, and in any season.