Living Up To Expectations During The Holidays

By

small gift
Having a good job, money, and nice things really help our social status, but do they help our souls?

List who you would like to see and who you'd like to spend time with and reach out to. List who you want to buy gifts for. And then prioritize this list.What do you have time for? What do you have money for? Be realistic.

Then pare this list down just a tiny bit more if it's too long. Remember the holidays are a time of fun. Not stress. Not giving, not receiving, but for enjoying. Don't feel bad about wanting to spend time alone. Don't feel bad for ducking out of the work party or the family dinner early. 10 Ways To Have A Loving Holiday Season

 

It's important that you take care of yourself. Just be honest, and authentic. Sure, people may get mad, upset, hurt, but taking care of yourself is key to being authentic and genuine with others. Do what you have time for and don't fret the rest. Just remember, there are 12 months in the year when you can make it up to those who get sad, upset or hurt ... That is, if you really want to.

And the other stuff, well, do what you truly love. It's important to find your passion, your drive, your motivation. Find out what you are passionate about and do it, not because it means anything to anyone but you. See if you can do that first, before popping what I call the last resort pill, the anti-depressant. I truly believe that if you do what you love, then you will have no choice but to be successful at it. Doesn't that sound better than being mediocre at a hum drum job?

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Moushumi Ghose

Sex Therapist

Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

Mou is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

Mou is the band leader, composer and voice of the rock band Ghosha.

Visit her website at www.LASexTherapist.com

Subscribe to The Sex Talk Series at www.TheSexTalkSeries.com

Listen to podcasts at Sex, Love and Rock 'N' Roll Radio.

Mou is the author of Marriage, Money and Porn, available on Amazon, and is currently writing her second book, about non-monogamous sex. 

 

Follow Moushumi on Twitter @MoushumiAmour and Facebook

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LMFT, MA, MFT
Other Articles/News by Moushumi Ghose:

CHASING THE BAD BOY

By

We’ve all heard the reasons why you are chasing the bad boys, ”you want to save them,” or “you think you can fix them.” Your therapist tells you that you’re trying to resolve something from your childhood like an absent or negligent parent, which your friends translate to, “oh, you have daddy (or mommy) issues.” ... Read more

5 Steps To Take If You're In A Seriously Unhealthy Relationship

By

Things inevitably go sour in relationships, sometimes during an argument, and sometimes just for a day, a week, and sometimes for longer. Try as you might to implement tips and tricks from the "better your relationship" trade from self help books, talk shows, seeing a couples therapist, and recommendations from friends and family, things may not seem ... Read more

5 Ways Introverts AND Extroverts Can Break Out Of Comfort Zones

By

"You gotta get up, get dressed and show up for life." I love good reminders, so my friend saying that to me was truly powerful. The last time I quoted her in an article it was about getting up in the morning, getting out of bed, and getting an early start on your day. I still believe that to be true. "The early bird gets the worm," as my ... Read more

See More

 
My Videos
ASK YOURTANGO MORE QUESTIONS
Must-see Videos
SEE MORE VIDEOS
Most Popular