In many cases ED is a his-and-her problem. For example, if she doesn’t seem interested in having sex, chances of ED may increase for many men. This might be indicative of a deeper problem within the relationship.
When men involved in a relationship seek treatment alone for ED it disproportionately places the blame and pressure on the male to fix himself only, suggesting he is the one with the problem, and this often makes the ED issue greater, and doesn’t address the deeper issues. Pressure is what is causing the ED to begin with. It’s important for those involved in a relationship, seeking assistance for ED to involve their partners in treatment.
Sexual dysfunction can only exist if you let it. Being a whole lover means loving yourself first and learning to give and receive. That goes for everyone.
Mou is a sex therapist based in Los Angeles. Visit her website www.LASexTherapist.com
This is an excerpt from her book Marriage, Money and Porn, available on Amazon.