Sexy Time For Couples


Sexy Time For Couples
Bringing Sexy Back, One Dirty Word At A Time

Maybe read this list to each other during breaks, if you are new to talking dirty. Also maybe used as an ice-breaker for couples who want to take their sex life to the next level. May be used daily in text messages, emails or just ‘in passing’ to set and keep the mood. Are good examples to use, but feel free to get as creative, dirty and kinky as is comfortable for you. The comfort level will increase in time. Goal is to become a dirty sensual lover to your partner.


‘Sexting’ your partner sexy text messages throughout the day, or when apart for longer periods of time, is a great way to stay in touch and keep the mood. Do this in the middle of your day. These little reminders will keep the sexy thoughts of each other at the tip of our minds, tongues and fingers. I like this website a lot:



Couples need to remember to relax together. Relaxation is so important to developing closeness. One great way is daily hugging. Hugging once or twice a day is important. Hug. Close eyes and inhale for 3 seconds. Relax your jaw, shoulders and belly. Hold your breath for 3 seconds and exhale for 3 seconds. Do this two more times. Do thistwo times a day. This can be done standing up or laying down. 


Self Love and Masturbation

Masturbation is a part of sexy time, in that it is the other half of your sexuality, it is the personal side of your sexuality, the part you most often do alone. A well-rounded healthy sexuality should include masturbation. If you do not masturbate regularly you should try to incorporate self love into your weekly routine, my suggestion is a minimum of 2 times a week, with a maximum being 5 times a week or daily. Whether this means a quick jack off or time spent on yourself is up to you. Taking baths, getting massage, self care and simply taking the time out for yourself is key here. If you are not in tune with your physical needs and desires, you are less likely to be a whole and complete lover.

Some Ideas for Getting Creative

“Femoral” Intercourse
This is thrusting the penis between the thighs instead of into the vagina. This is fun, sexy, and the closer the penis gets to the vagina, can be more and more arousing. Inserting penis directly into the vagina is optional, of course.

We are so conditioned to think that sex should just flow naturally. Media, movies and the like, like us to think that sex should always be romantic and organic. Well, it should but their version of romantic and organic is watered down. Exaggerate. Exaggerate. Exaggerate. Words you say, sounds you make, gestures and moves because the clearer the communication, the better. We are so in the closet about so much of sex that even a slight exaggeration can move us toward arousal and orgasm, so step out of your little shyness alcove today and bring the dirty on.

This is just the beginning. Get creative, and of course, I will be back with more ideas for Sexy Time for Couples.

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Moushumi Ghose

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Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

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