Sexy Time For Couples

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Sexy Time For Couples
Bringing Sexy Back, One Dirty Word At A Time

Stages of Sexy Time For Couples

Initiating Sexy Time:
One initiates, the other says Yes. Please note: If the other says No, then it is up to the other to initiate within 24 hours. The person who did not initiate this time should initiate within 48 hours. (This exercise is best done every two days.) Start with stage 1 and graduate to the next stage when you are really ready. (I recommened one week for each stage, at the minimum.) But take your time. The goal of sexy time is to feel sexy, hot, aroused and turned on. It is not about getting hard, getting wet, having intercourse or achieving orgasm so just take it slow and enjoy the sensations of deep arousal. (This is a technique of Master's and Johnson's also called Sensate Focus)

 

Stage one. No Genitals, and No Breasts, but you can use your hands, mouth, and/or tongue,
Don't: touch genitals, breasts/nipples, intercourse and orgasm
Do: massage, light candles, soft music, focus on one area of the body. Take turns, minimum 20 minutes each doing sensual massage. And talk, tell each other what you lilke, how it feels.

Stage Two. Breast/nipples okay, still no genitals. You can use hands, mouth, and/or tongue, and please no intercourse and no orgasm in this stage.
Don't: touch genitals, intercourse and orgasm Do: massage, light candles, soft music, focus on one area of the body. Take turns, minimum 20 minutes each doing sensual massage, licking, kissing. And talk, tell each other what you lilke, how it feels.


Stage Three. Breasts/nipple play is great, some genital play with hands, mouth or tongue is great,
Don't: no ntercourse and no orgasm 

Do: touch genitals with hands, mouth, feathers. massage, light candles, soft music, focus on one area of the body. Take turns, minimum 20 minutes each doing sensual massage, licking, kissing. And talk, tell each other what you lilke, how it feels.

 

Stage Four. Breasts/nipples yes! some genital play with hands, mouth or tongue yes! intercourse yes! But insert penis into vagina (or anus for men-men) and hold. No thrusting allowed in this stage. Slow, intercourse. Talk, tell each other what you lilke, how it feels.
Don't: no thrusting, no orgasm

Stage Five. All you can eat! Breasts/nipples okay, some genital play with hands, mouth or tongue okay, intercourse okay, insert penis into vagina, thrusting allowed and orgasm is okay too.

Couples should be talking to one another throughout the excercise, about the sensations, what feels good, if they want it harder or softer, etc..

Keeping The Mood EVERYDAY

You would be surprised at how many people love dirty talk. What are you waiting for? This simple technique can really turn things up in the bedroom.

Talking the Talk ~ Examples of Dirty Talk
http://www.dirtytalk101.com/101-dirty-talk-phrases/

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Moushumi Ghose

Sex Therapist

Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

Mou is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

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