Monogamy : A Band Aid for Us, Horny and Afraid

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Monogamy : A Band Aid for Us, Horny and Afraid
What if we said it's OKAY to be Horny and Afraid?

Don’t get me wrong. I think marriage is beautiful, and the union of two people when they fall in love and decide to support, nurture and love each other for the rest of their lives is truly amazing. And if people were more realistic about marriage and were truly educated on the true nature of long term relationships, that romance and passion wax and wane and that desire ebbs and flows, then we’d be much better at relationships I general. We would put less stock in ‘the one,’ and more stock into the connection, right now. Perhaps we wouldn't worry so much about commitment or settling, or perhaps we'd throw more caution to the wind when it comes to embracing our sexuality. If we were to accept that life is impermanent, that nothing lasts forever, even the most seemingly well matched duos and fairy tales of romances don't last forever, maybe we would also admit that what goes up, must come down instead of holding onto this fantasy that safe and sexy always, go hand in hand. Then maybe we could live our lives in less fear, embrace the moment, and seize the day, and accept in the end that yes, we are all just afraid and horny, and that is OKAY!


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Moushumi Ghose

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Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

Mou is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

Mou is the band leader, composer and voice of the rock band Ghosha.

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Mou is the author of Marriage, Money and Porn, available on Amazon, and is currently writing her second book, about non-monogamous sex. 

 

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