Clinging to What We Know - Even if It's Unhealthy

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Clinging to What We Know - Even if It's Unhealthy
3 Reasons We Stay in Unhealthy Relationships and What to Do

Are you feeling neglected, punished, ignored, rejected, criticized in your current relationship? Have you tried couples therapy but still keep hitting a wall or have seen little or no improvement? Does your partner lie, or manipulate the truth in therapy making progress diffcult or impossible? 

My goal in my practice is to encourage change and growth, but I do also know that sometimes it's very difficult to change and grow by ourselves when our partners, families, friends and surrounding people don't change with us or inspire, encourage or support the change. Too often I see people clinging to situations, lifestyles, and relationships long after it has ceased being a place of healthy, passionate growth for them.

We set up our life a certain way. We become accustomed to little every day things. We are creatures of habit but even so, is it in our best interest to hold onto something simply because we have invested time, money or energy into it?  Yes, things may have been really good at one time, great in fact, times which inspired us to grow, times which inspired us to become our best selves, but that was then, if it is so difficult to get back to those times, is it worth all this blood, sweat and tears? Especially if there seems to be a fundamental road block, usually in the form of another entity, which in relationships is quite often the other party. If two people cannot agree to grow towards the same goals, plans and interests is it possible to make these relationship grow and thrive?  And at what point do people finally say enough? Enough is enough? Does it really need to be this tough?

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Moushumi Ghose

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Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

Mou is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

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