Change can be awkward. Let’s face it, doing something different after years of doing it one way can be a downright scary at worst, embarrassing, awkward and strange at best. Breaking patterns is not easy, but it’s definitely doable. It just takes a strong desire to want change, and to recognize it is for the better.
Change is equivalent to growth. Dragging your heels in the dirt to avoid change leaves you closed off from the world. Hiding and afraid. Letting go to embrace change may sound scary but in the end will open up doors for you, doors you may never imagined possible, and can bring love and light into your life. The key is to accept change as a part of life. Some changes we can control, some we cannot. For example, when you go to see a therapist for the reasons of desiring change, or help, or just to get some support and insight that is a choice you have made, to seek out help. Other things, obviously we absolutely cannot control, the weather, earthquakes and natural disasters, and finally there are those other things we have some control over, perhaps over time, to either avoid or contribute to things like getting fired from a job or getting dumped.
I recently had an epiphany about change. Change can happen in many different ways. When you go to see a therapist, what you come away with, learn and decide to do with the information and insight you glean from you therapy sessions is completely and 100% up to you. You are the expert of your own life. You are the driver.
With that said, it is imperative for you to know that you are in charge of your life, including your relationships in a pretty big way. You make choices every day as to determining the outcome of certain situations. The therapist is just a guide, maybe a mirror, and hopefully an instigator to encourage you to get the relationships that you want, and of course the life that you want. The steps you take to make, change, or to save and nurture your relationship are all up to you. That’s not to say that all therapy is about saving relationships. Sometimes therapy can help us recognize that a relationship is not meant to be saved, is not what we any longer want and that it may be time to move on.