8 Things People In The Happiest Marriages ALWAYS Do

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8 Things You MUST Do If You Want A Truly Happy Marriage
Love

Because love is never enough on its own.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres." — Corinthians 13:4-8

You may think that marriages can thrive on love alone, you would be surprised to know that it takes much more than just love to make a marriage work.

Successful, happy marriages are the result of well-earned trust, friendship, communication, and, of course, compromise. The most successful marriages are those in which two people make a conscious effort to build their life together.

If you are ready to build the happiest marriage possible for yourself and your partner, you both MUST do these 8 things:

1. Accept your partner.

The first step to take towards an amazing marriage is learning to accept your partner with the good and the less good.

Remember that it is different when you are dating and only seeing someone once a week and therefore always having a good time. Marrying the person you love means you will be with them all the time and you will be exposed to their every habit. When you live with each other, you have to accept each other in totality. Your partner WILL have habits that will annoy you.

Learn to accept their flaws as you would expect them to accept your own.

2. Appreciate what you have.

Don't let the huge mansions of others make you lose appreciation for your love-filled shack. You must take care not to compare your life with the lives of other people or your marriage with other people's marriages.

Be grateful for what you have, recognize the value of your own partner, and know that and every couple has their own set of challenges, difficulties, and hardships.

3. Support your partner on their journey.

While marriage is about co-creation, shared visions, activities, and interests, it is important for each partner to take time for themselves as well as they move through life.

Developing individual paths to fulfillment is important and requires that you support your spouse in all endeavors and respect each other’s choices.

4. Focus on growing and changing yourself.

If you want to grow as a couple, you need to grow and change as individuals. Make sure that you are the kind of person who is adaptable to change. 

Focus on changing yourself rather than on changing your partner. Learn to become the best partner you can be, as it will make you a better and happier person overall.

5. Find happiness within.

For a marriage to be successful, each person needs to find happiness within themselves and feel content with what each has.

Marriage isn't only about the luxury items you own and the holidays you take together. It's about how happy you make yourself day in and day out, as well as what you each do to make the other happy. How will you make someone happy if you don’t act in a way that reflects joy? 

6. Be passionate.

Passion is the presence of powerful positive emotions and energy. It is an underlying sense of excitement, enthusiasm, and joyfulness.

What is a marriage without passion? Make sure that you express your love, feelings, and desires towards your partner. Like you, your spouse needs your passion and love. Your partner needs to feel attractive and be appreciated.

Let your partner know how passionate you are about them and how being with them brings out the best in you.

7. Have fun and laugh.

An important ingredient of any happy marriage is the experiencing fun and laughing together. Laughter is contagious and brings positive energy, along with stress and conflict relief. Be silly with each other and laugh like you did when you were kids.

Remember that marriage is about pleasurable companionship. In order to keep the spark alive, you need to spend quality time filled with a sense of humor, enjoyment of each other, and an easy-going attitude towards your spouse.

8. Build shared interests.

You and your spouse are two different individuals with different preferences, tests, and choices. You may like football and your spouse may like reading a novel. You two may not be alike, but you can build shared interests and values from which you can create shared dreams with one another.

Do things your partner loves to do and ask your partner to do things you love. Strive to build common interests and you will see how wonderfully it helps your relationship bond and grow.  

Moshe Ratson is an affair therapist in Midtown Manhattan in NYC. He assists couples overcome the traumatic experience of the affair, rebuild their trust and ultimately emerge stronger and happier. If you need guidance in dealing with infidelity in New York City, contact Moshe Ratson, who is a Licensed Marriage Family Therapist (LMFT) and infidelity expert.

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