I hate to admit it but I love entertaining a crowd. It's so ironic because I’m actually a super shy girl! My family still doesn’t know how I can be so soft spoken and timid in person yet so full of life on stage. I often wonder this myself sometimes! I think it’s because I love to entertain people and make them smile, even for one moment in time. But this irony made me think a lot deeper about people’s gifts and talents and how we can use them to propel us in dating successfully.
Throughout the years, I have entertained people through pageantry, fitness and local community shows. And the thing I’ve noticed is the variety of people that perform on stage and the tremendous gifts and talents they bring with them to the stage. Every one of them is different in their presentations. That’s what makes them special and people are drawn to their uniqueness.
The more the person brings their individual strengths to the stage no matter the eccentricity of it, the more that person shines in the eyes of the audience. The more the person hides their talent or tries to be like someone else, the more their light is dimmed and someone else shines ahead of them. Well, the same holds true for dating, the more we bring our gifts and talents to the relationship, the more our partners love us and the more we hide behind those gifts, the less attractive we become to our partners.
So why do we hide behind those gifts? Well, that’s a great question with a one word answer-fear. Fear sets in and tells us that people won’t like us if we express ourselves. Fear tells us to be like other people. The only problem is that when you become like other people, you lose the essence of who you were born to be in life. You become just another face in the crowd. We must learn to overcome that fear and let our light shine so that others can see it.
You see, I believe everyone has a gift and everyone is here on earth for a reason. Some people have bright, bold personalities while others may have a quiet unassuming personality. Some people have incredible outward beauty (although in the eyes of the beholder!) while others have a quiet, inner assurance. But that’s what makes us all colorful people. If the world were all full of one color or had one type of people, we would have a very boring world. Your uniqueness makes you attractive to others because it is what you bring to the table.
The more we’re free to express our talents and abilities in dating, the more others will see those talents and reward us accordingly. They appreciate the fact that we are who we are and not like other people. When you decide to express your own individual self, you move to another level of maturity and wisdom of which others can only aspire to go in life. You begin to control your own destiny and write your own rules. You begin to live the life you were meant to live.
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