When I was a little girl growing up, I would hear my elders talk about the proper etiquette for a young lady or what I like to call the “do’s” and “don’ts” of dating. Men had rules to follow too and were certainly not excluded but they usually followed suit with what was expected for women. It all seemed so simple back in those days as compared to modern times when you have to guess who will pay for the date or if you will get a “call back” after the date has ended. Maybe it’s time to revisit those days. Well at least revisit the rules that were set in place to ensure a successful courtship and see if we can update them to suit our modern day needs.
First, I’ll start with the ladies. As young ladies, we need to value our worth. You see, the more confident you feel about yourself on the inside, the more it will show on the outside. You have to believe you are worthy of a guy who treats you like a queen. If a guy is not treating you like the queen you are, he is not worthy to be with you. There’s plenty of fish in the sea. You have to know how much you bring to a potential relationship and that any man deserving of you should know this and respond to you accordingly.
Fellas, don’t think I forgot about you. It is critical for you to maintain a certain level of confidence too. As a matter of fact, I recommend not leaving home without it. Women look forward to meeting men who are confident and can take charge on a date. It’s such a turnoff for a man to be indecisive and “wishy-washy” on a date. Generally, women want men who have a clear direction and purpose for their lives and that she can look up to and admire for his endeavors.
Now, while dating has certainly changed since I was a little girl, some things never change. I still believe women enjoy it when a man approaches her rather than vice versa. We still enjoy receiving phone calls from men as opposed to texts as well as men asking us out on dates. I’ve listed a few of my favorite do’s and don’ts below that can still be applied to our modern day dating world.
1. Men – please do plan dates in advance. Sure, last minute dates are fun in the beginning and creates a certain level of spontaneity for us. But sooner or later, it gets old when we may have already made plans with our family and friends and you expect us to drop those plans because you called at the last minute.
2. Women – please be ready for the date on time. Yes, I know that you are only trying to look your best but it’s really not cool to keep the guy waiting, particularly if he has made reservations. Try to time yourself on how long it takes you to put on your clothes and apply your make-up so you’ll be ready on time.
3. Men – please do be chivalrous. Open the car door for us or pull the chair out for us to sit. If we seem a bit parched, offer us another drink. Surprise us with flowers on the first date. We notice these things. The more chivalrous you are on a date, the better your chances of having a second one.