The Survivor's Guide To Dating in D.C.


The Survivor's Guide To Dating in D.C.
Top 10 Tips To Surviving Dating In The Nation’s Capital

6. Avoid Becoming A Workaholic. People in D.C. work a lot. Even during the government shutdown where it was illegal to work, I overheard someone say they still had to work! I believe the other part of the reason there are so many singles in the area is because they can't balance their home life with their professional lives. It is a serious issue, even though it is dismissed by many in the professional help communities (probably because they're workaholics, too). If you do live in the area or plan to move here, try to balance your career and personal life. Take vacations as scheduled. You'll notice your colleagues and peers working well beyond what is required of them, trying to make it up the corporate and government ladder...and perhaps even notice how their home lives have suffered because of it.

7. Be Cautious As To Whom You Call A Friend. If there was one piece of advice I could give to you in moving there, it would be to be careful who you consider to be a friend. D.C. is a big melting pot of cultures and ethnicities with people from all over the world. Because of this, people have come with their own agendas. In other words, not everyone may have your best interests at heart. One tip I recommend is to be sure that the people you call friends have earned the right to have that title.


8. Avoid Political Conversations, If Possible.  I generally discourage talking about politics on the first few dates because, in this town people, get emotional over their political affiliations. But you may be surprised at how much you have in common with people outside of your political party. For that reason, I encourage people to stick to light-hearted conversations in the beginning of the dating process. You don't want to have to break up with a perfectly good guy or girl over whether we should continue to fund Medicare or not!

9. Become Online Dating Savvy. Online dating can be a really useful tool in big cities where you can feel like a little fish in a big pond.  Using online dating to find the right mate may save you tons of time that may otherwise be wasted on people who are not the right fit for you. If you can learn to master online dating, you will be off in no time enjoying the sights and sounds of D.C. with your new beau!

10. Know When To Relocate, If Necessary! If you've lived here a long time and still have not found anyone compatible, then it may be time to decide whether you should relocate to another area. Please do consider whether you have exhausted all options to finding someone because relocation can be a big step. If you're not prepared money wise or don't have a job lined up in another area, then finding a mate will become the least of your worries. Still, I believe your personal/family life is just as important as your professional life. When you are lacking in that area, I don't believe you can have a happy and fulfilled life.

In short, dating in D.C. is certainly not for the faint-hearted. It takes a lot of tenacity, perseverance, and patience to find someone special in the area. "This certainly isn't Kansas, Dorothy." Of course, there are those few lucky people who meet in college, get married, and settle down almost with ease. Unfortunately, everyone can't be that lucky. That's why I've listed my tips to help you get through the maze. If you stay true to who you are as a person, follow my tips, I'm sure you'll be fine. And if you find that D.C. is not for you but you've enjoyed your stay, then hopefully you will have created the best memories of your life. Good Luck!

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Monique Boyd

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Location: Ellicott City, MD
Credentials: BS, CLC, CRC, MBA
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