4. You Can Help To Nurture And Guide His Kids: If you're a compassionate woman, this may be the perfect situation for you. You can have a direct influence on how his kids are raised. Sure, you can't overstep the boundaries put in place for the children by their parents, but you can still offer guidance and wisdom to them as a trusted friend or confidante. Sometimes kids find it hard to go to their parents for advice so you would be the perfect person for them to come to in that situation. Just be careful of being their "friend," as you will still be considered an authority figure — and they must listen to you accordingly.
5. Opportunity To Help Heal Family Wounds: This is where it gets tricky. Sometimes when outsiders come into an already dysfunctional family, it can create total chaos... or it can signal a new beginning. My hope for you is that it becomes a new beginning for yourself and for the family. This is an opportunity for you to bring a sense of hope into a bad situation. There are usually a lot of open wounds when it comes to divorce or family breakups, and you have a unique opportunity to bring healing to all involved.
In summary, dating a man with kids is certainly not for the faint of heart. There can be many advantages to the situation, including a partner who has learned to be more nurturing and sensitive towards others, and one who isn't into "disappearing acts." However, you shouldn't ignore the disadvantages to the situation, like lack of quality time and resources he'll have for you — not to mention the jealousy and disrespect which may come as a result in this family situation.
At the end of the day, no one can judge you if you decide to date a man with kids or decide against it. Some women are happily dating men with children, and others couldn't imagine it. My goal was to provide you with enough information to make an informed decision so that you can live your life accordingly. My hope is that you take this information and make the best choice possible — for you. Good Luck!