Compliments and positive feedback are food for the soul and food for the psyche. As we need regular meals of good food to fuel our bodies and give us the energy we need to make a good life so we need appreciation and applause to fuel our psyche and produce the positive self-esteem we need for an emotionally healthy life.
In too many homes, parents are harassed and worried and overworked and irritable. They focus on the negative and produce choruses of negative messages. “You’re so stupid.” “You’re a bad brother.” “You’re so clumsy. You spill everything.” “How many times do I have to tell you the same thing?” ----- Deluged by the negative, children internalize these messages of these “knowledgeable and powerful people” and feel themselves to be what they are labeled!
What children need is a diet of positive messages. “You did a good job on your lunch.” “What a special picture.” “Thank you for being so helpful and bringing the scissors.” “You’re so nice to Johnny. What a good friend you are.” ----- Parents need to search for and focus on the good and highlight and express it often. Children will internalize these messages, feel good and do good.
So --- applause, please!