6. Physical affection. Touch your spouse. You can rub her shoulder or squeeze his arm to show that you are grateful that she’s here with you right now. As relationships lengthen, we sometimes forget to touch each other enough, not sexually, but in a grateful manner that makes them feel you are thankful for their presence in your life.
Try to make a commitment to take one of these actions each day for thirty days. You might notice that your spouse and you are talking more and interacting in a more intimate way. Your life becomes gradually less stressful. Resentments that have built up over time melt like snow on a spring day.
Being grateful, like performing charitable acts, often does more for the person showing gratitude than it does for the receiver. You might find that your step is a little lighter. Gratitude not only diffuses resentment, but it is difficult to be angry with someone who says, "thank you," and smiles.
If you have trouble remembering to be thankful, make a list of who and what you are grateful for, then look it over each morning to remind you not to take anything or anyone for granted, especially your spouse.