Six Things Happy Couples Do Differently, According to Research

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Six Things Happy Couples Do Differently, According to Research
An unhappy relationship can wreak havoc on your health. Learn six critical things happy couples do.

An unhappy relationship can wreak havoc on your emotions and health. In fact, a ten-year study has shown that stressful relationships are a causal factor in depression.

We are all social creatures. When we carry negative emotions - every single day - toward the people in our lives, it destroys us.

 

It's important to get this area of life right. In fact, it is among the most important things you can do.

Whenever you want to do something well, it is always more effective to learn from someone who is already succeeding at what you want to do.

In this spirit, I've researched the patterns of behavior among happy couples. I've consulted some of the best online resources. I've drawn upon my own experience over 25 years of coaching and 10 years of successful friendship with my wife, Hope.

I also included Jake and Hannah Eagle, co-developers of the most insanely useful romantic relationships program online. So, please enjoy the six things happy couples do differently.

1. Happy couples keep the surprise alive

If you don't satisfy your need for variety in life, then you will most definitely get BORED. Boredom in relationships is DEADLY.

How do you keep things interesting with someone you've known for years? Surprise them.

Shock your partner with something thoughtful - and it doesn't have to be expensive. And make it about him or her. So, don't buy yourself a new car to surprise your spouse.

Examples:

• Say I love you out of the blue.
• Surprise gifts and inexpensive outings.
• Do the other's chores around the house while she is away.
• Volunteering a massage.

It's the little things! Keep the other person guessing about what you'll do next. Each pleasant surprise adds a spice to recipe in your relationship. And don't do the same "nice" thing every Tuesday. You can't schedule surprise.

If you neglect this one, the surprise you get one day might not be pleasant.

2. Get physical - all the time

Not just sex.

Happy couples take time to feel each other's body all the time. Longer hugs. Kissing so you actually feel the impression of lips gives the extra ounce of connection that bonds two people together.

The experts at HelpGuide state that the number one relationship priority is: Connect.

Connecting physically boosts oxytocin, the hormone that governs human bonding. According to at least one survey reported by the Guardian, couples were happiest when they slept in the nude together.

3. Happy couples learn world-class communication skills (amazingly easy to learn)

A whole new level of sophisticated communication skills is NOT DIFFICULT to learn and apply. For example, in NLP we know that a majority of communication happens through three of the five senses.

We communicate in pictures, sounds and feelings. Most people have a preference for one of these modes of communication.

Love is a form of communication.

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
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Mike Bundrant

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Mike Bundrant is author of the new book, Your Achilles Eel: Discover and Overcome the Hidden Cause of Negative Emotions, Bad Decisions and Self-Sabotage.

Watch the free video The AHA! Process: An End to Self-Sabotage and discover the lost keys to personal transformation and emotional well-being.

The information in this video has been called the missing link in mental health and personal development. In a world full of shallow, quick-fix techniques and second rate psychology, real solutions have become nearly impossible to find. This presentation will turn your world upside down.

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center and host of Mental Health Exposed, a Natural News Radio program.

Location: Murrieta, CA
Credentials: LPC
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