4 Ways To Blow Past Your Arguments

By Mika Maddela. Posted on Feb 13th 2013.

Here are 4 ways to blow past the negativity of a fight with your spouse.

Whatever it may be, tell eachother everything that you are grateful for. This is a great way to alleviate the tension between you and your spouse. You may not get your spouse to participate but you can change the dynamic of your relationship by being the person to step up and begin this nightly ritual.

By focusing on what you're grateful for, you are eradicating any negativity that you have as well as lessening the impact of fights in your marriage.

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Although you can’t control your partner and their reaction, you have 100% control of how you choose to react and respond in your marriage. This is one of the first step to changing the dynamic in your relationship without resorting to manipulative tactics or reverse psychology like many of the internet's worst relationship advice.

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Mika Maddela is a recovering chocolateholic and a relationship coach on the Path to Passion, her personal blog that helps people improve their relationships by focusing on the obstacles that prevent them from getting the love they want in their life.

"The root of a successful relationship begins with you. Self-love and awareness is the core foundation of a loving and thriving relationship"

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