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7 Tips To Have The Hottest Sexcation Of All Time

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Is your relationship boring you to tears? Try a 'sexcation' to re-kindle the passion.

If you've lost romance and excitement in your long-term relationship, it may be time to spice up your sex life. Kids, work, dishes, laundry, same ol' everything is a perfect recipe for a boring intimate life for the married woman and man!

Try a mini vacation or overnight, just for two, to help spice things upaka "sexcation." Here's how you can fix your marriage with a sexcation:

1. Frame Of Mind

Time to get your sexy on! Begin to think of how you and your partner used to be romantically and sexually. Know that this in vacation you're going to turn up the volume, expanding your mind and releasing inhibitions.

2. Start Texting

Begin to text little sexy suggestions to your significant other. Let them know there are surprises in store but keep them a secret. Do this every day prior to vacay.

3. Get Clean

 Your guy will go crazy if you get a Brazilian wax. If the fear of the pain is too much for you, at least shave it all off. Yes, all! If it's your 1st time for a Brazilian, you may want to do it a week ahead of time. Skin can be very sensitive and you may need a bit of recovery time.

4. Lingerie/Sexy Wear

 Get a more risque style that you've never worn. Bodystocking, crotchless underwear for dinner, thigh-high boots, stilettos (for room only. We don't want you breaking your leg & ruin the weekend!). Anything that is beyond what you've worn before.

5. Sexy Play Products

Bring em' if you have them or have it delivered discreetly to your hotel. Have your significant other pick it up and open the surprise inside.

If this doesn't turn he or she on, you may need to check their pulse! Sexy play is a great way for married couples to reignite their passion.

6. Wine, Champagne, Or Cocktails

We're not suggesting you get tanked, but a little spirits can help with relaxation, celebration, and releasing mental restraints. Champagne is one of the world's sexiest beverages.

7. Pack Light Foods

You may never leave the room so pack some little nibbles to keep your energy up and to show your partner that you have thoroughly planned for this incredible night/day/morning (hopefully all 3!).

Cheese, crackers, dips, strawberries, chocolate, etc. Nothing too filling or messy...unless it's whipped cream or something of that nature.

Try to get away at least 3-4 times a year. Make sure to follow step #1. Your time will go by quickly and you need to take full advantage.

Bon voyage!

Midori Verity, Relationship Coach, visit her website. Test your relationship IQ—Click here to take our Live Sexy Relationship Quiz to see your score.

This article was originally published at my blog. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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