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10 Rules For Women Who Are Unlucky In Love

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Are you unlucky in love?
Dating got you down? Your approach may need a makeover.

Remember, men like a challenge. This, however, is not to say that they like a tease. Don't expect, like one unfortunate woman I know, a man to be ok with sleeping over in your bed without having sex. This is kind of a mind game is disrespectful on your part. You cannot expect anyone to be ok with you sending mixed messages.

If he is pushing for more intimacy, let him know that you don't feel comfortable with that until you know each other better. You need to respect your body too much not to.

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10. Let go of the outcome. Let's face it, all relationships end at some point. Some relationships are very short-lived because they are not meant to be. This is no indication of your worth as a person. So many women are devastated when a first date does not become a relationship. They think it is because they are not pretty enough, smart enough, successful enough or fun enough. They don't even stop to consider whether or not they even like the guy.

Date like a man. Show up, have fun and if it works out, great, if not, on to the next one.

Will following these rules help you get married or find a long-term relationship? Maybe, maybe not. But by following these guidelines, you will quickly be able to weed out people who are not worth your time and energy.

It may seem like adhering to these rules would be "playing games". It isn't a game, it is about showing someone you are worthy of their respect. The bottom line is that if you don't respect yourself, no one else will either. Just like interviewing for a job, you need to make sure the man is someone you want, not just concern yourself with whether or not he wants you.

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