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10 Rules For Women Who Are Unlucky In Love

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Are you unlucky in love?
Dating got you down? Your approach may need a makeover.

Men seem to be excited by the thrill of the chase. They want a woman who is a bit of a challenge. They, of course, won't readily admit to this. Just like with children who will tell you they don't want rules, but they function much better and are happier with them.

A woman who has nothing going on and is always at their beck and call is not desirable for a relationship. She is desirable for hooking up. So let me ask you, do you want to be an afterthought or do you want to be respected? Men want to be with a woman who has a life of her own, not someone who is just waiting around on them. This extends into a long-term relationship as well.  You need to have interests outside of him. If you don't, I can guarantee you that at some point, you will be miserable.

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7. Never call him unless returning a call. Don't be clingy. I can't emphasize this enough. Men will easily get turned off by a woman who calls or texts too much. It is overwhelming and can end a relationship before it starts. Again, like in rule six, you are a busy woman. You have so many people and activities competing for your time and attention, you don't have time to call him.

Let him call you at least for the first couple of months. Again, this becomes diagnostic of how much energy he wants to invest. After your relationship is more established, call him but still limit how much you do call. He is not a girlfriend with whom you should spend hours on the phone. If he has hours to spend on the phone, he can use the effort to see you.

8. Never return a call or text immediately. Remember, you are busy, busy, busy. Don't sit by the phone waiting for a call or text. If this is anxiety provoking, find some other way to spend your time. You can bet he isn't sitting by the phone waiting for you to call. Meanwhile, your life is passing you by. Get out there and live it.

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9. Do not get physical. Hopefully, by this point, this goes without saying. For the first couple of months, you should limit your physical intimacy. We get far too emotionally attached when sex is involved in a relationship, but men don't view this the same way. When you are intimate too soon in the relationship, you are investing too much too soon. He will not respect you if you give it up too soon. Keep reading ...

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