7. Don’t Fill Your Profile with Adjectives – Most profiles are filled with adjectives like athletic, passionate, adventurous, romantic, spontaneous, etc. Yawn, yawn, yawn! Show, don’t tell. Instead of writing that you’re “adventurous” (yeah, you and 30,000 other women your age), why not talk about the zip-line course you conquered in Costa Rica? You’re “athletic”? Write about the way you felt at Mile 20 of your first marathon. Your profile should be uniquely you – written in your own voice speaking directly to the reader.
8. Don’t Use Poor Grammar and Spelling – Spell check was invented years ago. Use it. Don’t abbreviate words like “u”, “2moro” or “thx” in your profile or emails. Use upper and lower case properly. Show the world that you are educated and normal.
9. Don’t Sound Bitter – Even though you’ve dated emotionally unbalanced drama queens in the past, resist the temptation to write, “Drama queens need not apply” in your profile. Stay positive and talk about what you like, not what you dislike. Listing the things you’re NOT looking for will only make you seem bitter and negative.
10. Don’t Reveal Too Much - Remember – until you’ve actually met a real live person, you don’t know who you are corresponding with. Be conscious of your safety and don’t reveal too much about yourself initially. Consider giving out a Google Voice phone number instead of your own. And create a separate email address to use for dating - one that doesn’t give away your identity. It’s always better to be safe than to be sorry.
11. Don’t Take Things Personally - When dating online, don’t take things personally. If someone you’re interested in doesn’t respond to your email, he or she may be busy at work, overwhelmed with an overflowing inbox or taking a break from dating. Be patient and be forgiving. Dating online takes a thick skin and a lot of patience, but in the end, it’s worth it.
12. Don’t Get Discouraged and Give Up – Stick with it and maintain a positive, hopeful attitude. Dating is a numbers game, and you’ve simply got to meet a lot of different people before you find someone special. If you’re under the impression that you’re going to meet “the one” within two months of filling out your profile, you’re probably wrong. Give it at least six months. A year is even better. Remember, it only takes one. And you might make some really nice friends in the meantime.