What is relationship coaching and how do you know if it would benefit you to work with a relationship coach? First, let us start by clarifying what relationship coaching is:
"Relationship coaching is a professional client-focused service which assumes that individuals are healthy, powerful, and able to achieve their relationship goals with effective support, information, and guidance." David Steele, founder of Relationship Coaching Institute and author of Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life in Today's World.
You hire a personal trainer, who is a one on one coach, when you want to get your body into shape and you need help with motivation, focus, and achieving your health and fitness goals. You hire a golf coach to teach you how to improve your golf game. Both types of coaches keep you accountable for your actions. Sometimes what you do will be uncomfortable, even painful at times, but you consider that the coaching is worth it because you see the positive results.
Similarly, Relationship Coaching is an incredibly powerful method for you to gain clarity as you and your coach set result-oriented goals with realistic timetables. You can benefit from relationship coaching, whether you are single and seeking the one for you or if you are part of a couple and would like to improve your relationship with your partner.
One of the best predictors of a successful outcome with relationship coaching is your willingness to be open and to learn. A coach should not simply shove her or his opinions down your throat. The job of your relationship coach is to offer powerful questions to get you thinking in new and different ways. Keep in mind that if you tend to respond to people frequently with "yes, but" you may not be ready for relationship coaching.
Taking personal responsibility for your success is another indicator of readiness for relationship coaching. You may have no idea how to do this, and that is all right. Willingness is the key. If, on the other hand, you are stuck in the victim role and continue to blame others, you are not ready for relationship coaching.
If you feel stuck and frustrated, wondering what you need to know that you do not know, relationship coaching can help. Your coach is trained to listen actively to what you say and what lies underneath what you are saying to help you discover things you may not have thought of before. If you are willing to experience the discomfort (and joy) that may come from this process, you can make some progress.
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