Got Kids? Stay Married ... It's That Simple

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Got Kids? Stay Married ... It's That Simple
One expert's controversial take on marriage, divorce and staying together for the sake of the kids.

Here's one more thing to consider. There is never just a single reason people remain together; there are many, many reasons couples decide to stick it out. Marriage is a package deal.

People choose to remain married because they want companionship, sex, financial security, family ties, extended family, someone with whom to share responsibilities, a person to grow old with, a preference to share life as opposed to going it alone and so on.  If one of the reasons people choose to remain together is for the sake of the kids, I say, "Bravo." That's great.

The bottom line is this: We only have one go-around, and we all deserve happiness. No one should plan on simply acquiescing to a life of misery. Having said that, given the miraculous changes I've seen in couples' relationships, even in the 11th hour, I feel like a psychotic optimist.

You don't have to just stay together for the sake of the kids; get happy for the sake of the kids!  It will be a gift for a lifetime.

Michele Weiner-Davis
Author of Divorce Busting and The Sex-Starved Marriage
Founder of www.divorcebusting.com

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Michele Weiner-Davis

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Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW

www.DivorceBusting.com

phone: 303-444-7004

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Location: Boulder, CO
Credentials: MSW, Other
Specialties: Divorce/Divorce Prevention, Infidelity / Affair Recovery
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