The good news is that today, there are marriage education classes couples can take to improve their Relationship IQs. Couples can transform an unhappy or ho-hum marriage into a great one. Additionally, although choosing a quality therapist takes some investigation and effort, couples can go to therapists who are skilled at helping them resolve their differences, not just talk about their feelings or the problems.
In short, although it's understandable why someone who is unhappy in marriage might envision the future to be nothing more than a miserable extension of the past, it aint necessarily so. Marriages can heal, change and improve with the proper help. In fact, studies show that, even without professional help, couples who wait out the storm report that they are extremely happy five years later!
When it comes to marriage, patience isn't only a virtue, it's a necessity.
Parents who want a divorce often say that, although it won't be easy, children are resilient and they will be better off in the long run ... but here's what the research says about this: Divorce takes an enormous toll on children.
Change is very difficult. Dissolving a family has enormous repercussions. Children often are shuffled from home to home. Family finances suffer due to the need to maintain separate households. Parents are often preoccupied with their own emotional well-being.
Frequently, there are moves to new school districts, requiring major emotional adjustments. And then there are second marriages and the unique challenges of step-families. Plus, second and subsequent marriages are less likely to succeed than first marriages, requiring even more changes to children's lifestyles.
Studies also suggest that even when the adults are happier in their new lives, there doesn't seem to be a trickle-down effect to the children. Children, it seems, get the short end of the stick. Continue reading.