What Do Women Want? Not These 3 Types of Guys


What Do Women Want? Not These 3 Types of Guys
There are certain traits of a man that ultimately gravitates a woman.

The world is full of wonder and, as a result, full of questions: Is there a God? What’s the meaning of life? Did the chicken come first, or was it the egg? What the heck is a shoe horn for?

While all of us, regardless of gender, find ourselves asking some questions, there are other queries pondered mainly by the male sex: Should the designated hitter be eliminated? Who will go down as the greatest quarterback of all time? Can a person survive on steak alone? And, of course, the most perplexing of all: What exactly do women want?

When it comes to the latter, there is no straight answer. In simple terms, different women want different things.

But, that doesn’t mean there aren’t certain traits that most women seek or – more accurately – most women run from.

In fact, there are some types of men known to repel women faster than a first date who has a farting contest with himself. These men include:

The One Upper

The One Upper is the person who does exactly what it sounds like: he one ups people. If a lady talks about how she wants to write a children’s book, he says he wants to write five. If she talks about how she once visited Paris, he talks about hiking through Europe…twice. If she talks about how she played soccer in high school, he says he was almost drafted by the MLB (but scouts were too intimidated by his talent!). 

The One Upper loses credibility with women for two reasons. First of all, he fails to listen to what they are really saying, instead acting as though he is just biding his time until it’s his turn to speak. Second of all, he invalidates whatever his date is saying by making his stuff seem so much grander.

What the One Upper never reveals, and this is obvious to women, is anything that makes him look less than awesome. This is a huge disservice to himself: women will be more impressed with a man who admits that he wasn’t always right or he wasn’t always suave than she will ever be by a man who only tells stories that make him out to be a hero.

The Zealot

Men are often zealous about many things: cars, sports, Pabst Blue Ribbon. While being ambitious is a good thing, being a Zealot about only one area in your life can be unattractive.

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