Dating Relationship Advice: 5 Signs of Selfishness

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Dating Relationship Advice: 5 Signs of Selfishness
When a relationship and selfishness go hand in hand, they go right into the attorney's office.

Most of the dating relationship advice that is out there has to do with how to behave in a relationship. It discusses things like communicating, being honest, and, you know, not slashing each other’s car tires. Other dating relationship advice talks about how to handle life’s difficulties: break ups, non-committal make ups, and shake ups. Then there is the dating relationship advice that is purely in regards to who - and who you shouldn’t – date.

Doling out the latter can be tricky: I don’t actually know you (unless I do and in that case, “hi”). So, it may be hard for me to provide dating relationship advice that specifies what type of person is good for you and what type is bad. I simply don’t know what kind of things you’re attracted to (please don’t let one of them be “urine”).

But, I do know what makes a relationship work and what makes one fail. And, for this reason, I know selfishness (either from you or your partner) is the equivalent of taking your relationship to the top of a volcano and tossing it inside.

So, how do you know if you or your partner is selfish? Sometimes, it’s obvious (and no, it’s not really about hogging the bed covers), but other times you need to look for clues. These include:

It’s one person’s way or the highway: Most dating relationship advice will tell you that unions are a two way street; if they’re one way, a dead end is inevitable. Because of this, a relationship that is dictated by only one person’s wants and desires will never ever thrive. Instead, it’ll go the way of proper grammar or that kid from Hook: it’ll simply disappear.

You only see one set of friends and family: Another way to tell if your relationship involves selfishness is by the people you hang out with: do you only see your family or always hang out with their friends? If it’s one-sided, there’s a good chance it’s unfair. There are, of course, exceptions to this: if only one partner ever makes an effort to get together with people, then selfishness isn’t really an issue; it’s more about taking the initiative - you can't expect your partner to make plans with your mother. That kind of thing is up to you.

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