YourTango Experts tell us how to cast off mental and physical weight in time for V Day.
Valentine's Day has a way of reminding us about our attractiveness, and that often leads to poor body image and a nagging feeling that something is wrong. We get negative clues from various sources, for example:
Doctors: Your health is in danger so you must lose weight.
Strangers: People look through you. They don't flirt. Sometimes they're even unkind.
Love partners: You can't get a date. There is no attraction coming from potential lovers.
Body: Pain, weakness, exhaustion, lack of energy, lack of sleep, anxiety.
6. Get Clear On Your Definition Of "Attractive"
Attractiveness is a combination of form (your body shape and size), mind (your attitudes and behaviors), and soul (your emotional well-being). To feel attractive, it's important to pay attention to each of these three aspects of yourself. Women Most Attractive In Winter
Form: Exercise; eat better food; adopt a style of dress, hair, etc. that makes you feel good.
Mind: Don't complain--it makes you negative. Try to see the positive side of everything. Choose people and situations that are upbeat and motivating.
Soul: Use any kind relaxation techniques—the more relaxed you are, the more sensual you become. Take walks that are pleasant, not for exercise. Take dance lessons—especially those that are erotic and sensual.
Bottom line: Poor body image is not a result of what we see in the mirror, but a result of being dissatisfied with our current lifestyle. Start paying attention to these aspects of your lifestyle and you'll notice a difference in the way you feel about yourself.