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How To Make Your Relationships Amazing Based On Clear Communication

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The ability to communicate clearly can open all the doors in your life.

Successful Communication Made Simple-

A Series of Conversations to help you create more LOVE, HAPPINESS & SUCCESS.

What does it really take to Create Successful Relationships?

This is the beginning of a series about how we can all Create more Successful Relationships. At Connection Point Centre we believe that excellent communication can be learned and is the key to living happy, loving and successful lives. This is where I believe you can change your life, and we can change the world, by positively connecting; personally, professionally, and globally, one conversation at a time.

Studies show that 85% of our happiness & success in life can be directly attributed to our communication skills.

The atmosphere of all our relationships is determined entirely on our ability to communicate and how we exchange ideas, thoughts, and feelings, how we manage our own reactivity, appreciate others' perspectives, listen, solve conflict and express our own needs and values. How we communicate controls what our lives are like, and whether we feel happy, fulfilled, have loving relationships, and are successful personally and professionally, or whether we experience conflict, disharmony, disconnection, unhappiness, feel misunderstood, unfulfilled, alone and unappreciated.

  • Are you experiencing conflict with your partner, your children or your colleagues at work?
  • Are you feeling misunderstood and unappreciated?
  • Do you want to feel more loved?
  • Is no one listening to you?
  • Do you feel unhappy and don't even know why?
  • Do you feel blamed and criticized?
  • Are you not enjoying life?
  • Is your partner distant and unresponsive?
  • Are you not where you want to be in your career?
  • Are you feeling unfulfilled and purposeless?
  • Do you not know how to ask for what you want?
  • Are you afraid to speak up for yourself? 

Every day we live and work with other people who have different opinions, values, beliefs, and needs than our own, so having the ability to communicate effectively with others is what will create more love, happiness, and success in all areas of our lives.

I believe that, as human beings our most basic needs are to be heard, understood, appreciated, loved, and bonded with others. Learning how to express our beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and needs is as important as water and breathing. If we mastered the fine art of communication earlier in life, many of us would have been able to avoid a lot of pain in our lives. From the lack of understanding ourselves and each other and our inability to communicate effectively, divorce is at an all time high of 59%. We have become a society of disconnected individuals unable to speak from the heart and speaking from the heart is what creates connection.

"If there is to be any hope of success, it is not enough to put your mind to it, one must put your whole heart into it"-Calyn Stewart Shaw

The act of communicating not only involves the words we choose, but how we say the words, our tone and body language. Our use of language and being mindful of a desired outcome has tremendous power in the type of atmosphere that is created during moments of emotional conflict. Words that are critical, blaming, judgmental, or accusatory tend to create resistance and defensiveness that is not conducive to productive problem solving or loving respectful connection. On the other hand, we can choose words that are softer, more positive and compassionate and have an element of personal responsibility that will lead to clearer understanding and positive loving connection.

The truth is relatively simple and successful communication requires that we state our point of view, our feelings, values, and needs as succinctly and as clearly as possible with a foundation of copious quantities of heartfelt authenticity and compassion.

 “If you do what you have always done you will get what you have always got”

I believe there are 5 principles that are necessary for stellar communication, Consciousness, CompassionCuriousityComittment and 
Courage which we will discuss in greater detail in the series and I will also share with you the 5 Simple Steps to Successful Conversations Formula: Intention, Stating the Issue, How We Feel, What We Need, Ask. The place to start learning how to become more successful in your relationships is by getting to know yourself better, becoming conscious of the impact you have on others, becoming personally responsible for your part in any interaction, and learning to manage your emotions, anxiety and reactivity. Combine all that with stellar communication skills and you can create the life you have always dreamed of personally, professionally, and globally.

Connection Point Centre specializes in teaching communication skills that create connection and harmony, resolve conflict, improve relationships through heart to heart conversations, team building through authentic expression and collaboration, and coaching dynamic cultures and creating more love, happiness and success in all areas of your life.

“What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart” – Dr. Marshall Rosenberg NVC

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Please feel free to contact me with feedback, questions, or if you need support

Love Mheyah


This article was originally published at Mheyah Bailey @ Connection Point Centre. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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