Preparing For A Sexy Old Age Start Now!


Practical tips for staying sexually healthy and active as we age.

Gently improve your flexibility and endurance -  Exercise for fitness and strength is important but as we age, flexibility can be just as important in allowing us to feel good and do the things we want to do. Yoga, Dance or a full body athletic stretching routine would all be great choices to help stay limber and keep a variety of physical options open to you.

Talk to your doctor about meds you are prescribed and their sexual side effects – It is true many frequently prescribed medications have sexual side effects, but there are often strategies to try that can diminish negative effects. Advocate for yourself by asking your doctor about each new medication you take and bringing your concerns to their attention right away. If your doctor is unapproachable about sexual issues or discourages you from asking about this, you may want to find a new doctor. This is an important part of your life, you want your doctor to support you, and your sexuality, as you age.


Follow the discussion about hormone levels and hormone replacement therapies – There are a lot of hopeful signs as we increase our understanding of the role of Estrogen, Progesterone, and Testosterone in health, aging, and sexuality. There are still differing opinions and approaches to hormone supplementation, so talk to your doctor about your unique health profile and needs. It may be helpful to seek out a Naturopathic Doctor, who tend to look at hormone levels more regularly, for consultation as well. It is clear there is not a one size fits all answer here, but it is worth exploring what might work for you.

Develop a broad sexual repertoire – If what you do sexually is limited to vigorous penetration in one position, problems with erections, lubrication, painful intercourse, or even back problems will create a big block to your sex life. However, if you engage in a lot of sexual behaviors, seeking physical pleasure from more than just your genitals, feel comfortable being creative in bed (or out of bed!) with your partner, you will be able to easily work around injuries or other limiting factors. Start expanding your sexual script, don’t rely on the same things each time. Enjoy exploring now and you will always find options to keep you happy later.

Keep sexuality a regular part of your life – You don’t need a partner to keep yourself sexually active; masturbation and fantasy are both great ways to maintain sexual responsiveness. For women, the more you orgasm, the easier it is for you to orgasm later. Also consistent stimulation of the vagina provides healthy blood flow and can help keep the tissues healthy and make future penetration more comfortable. For both men and women, knowing how your body responds, what excites you, and your body’s pathway to orgasm will enhance your sex life with or without a partner. Consciously making time and energy for sex to play a role in your life is key to having a sexy old age. It is up to you!

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Melissa Fritchle


Melissa Fritchle, MA, LMFT, is a holistic psychotherapist with a private practice in Capitola, CA specializing in sexuality and couple's issues. She is also an engaging sex educator traveling within the US and globally to support positive sexuality.

Visit her website to read her blog, Conscious Sexual Self, and for upcoming opportunities to connect with Melissa.

Location: Capitola, CA
Credentials: LMFT, MA
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, LGBT Issues (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender), Sexuality
Other Articles/News by Melissa Fritchle:

Why Crying Over Your Breakup Is Good For Your (Mental) Health


As a therapist, I have sat with many people recovering from a breakup. I have been able to witness the subtle shifts as a life is put back together, even when people have no idea how to move forward. For many people I see three distinct phases in this process, each important, each challenging in its own way. There are riches to be found in growing through a ... Read more

5 Ways To Encourage Better Body Image Within Your Family


They say children are like sponges and imitate what their parents do and say. This can be cute but it can also become a problem, especially if what they are imitating is body-shaming and negative self-talk about food. This is not effective and can often cause negative side-effects for your children and family. But it doesn't have to be that way. Read on to ... Read more

Best Sex You Ever Had


A common confession/concern that people share with me at public talks, usually talking in a hushed voice, is this, “I had the most amazing lover but for various reasons we broke up. How do I enjoy sex now after being with someone so good? I feel like the best sex of my life is behind me”. I have a lot of compassion for the yearning and nostalgia in ... Read more

See More

My Videos
Must-see Videos
Most Popular