Gently improve your flexibility and endurance - Exercise for fitness and strength is important but as we age, flexibility can be just as important in allowing us to feel good and do the things we want to do. Yoga, Dance or a full body athletic stretching routine would all be great choices to help stay limber and keep a variety of physical options open to you.
Talk to your doctor about meds you are prescribed and their sexual side effects – It is true many frequently prescribed medications have sexual side effects, but there are often strategies to try that can diminish negative effects. Advocate for yourself by asking your doctor about each new medication you take and bringing your concerns to their attention right away. If your doctor is unapproachable about sexual issues or discourages you from asking about this, you may want to find a new doctor. This is an important part of your life, you want your doctor to support you, and your sexuality, as you age.
Follow the discussion about hormone levels and hormone replacement therapies – There are a lot of hopeful signs as we increase our understanding of the role of Estrogen, Progesterone, and Testosterone in health, aging, and sexuality. There are still differing opinions and approaches to hormone supplementation, so talk to your doctor about your unique health profile and needs. It may be helpful to seek out a Naturopathic Doctor, who tend to look at hormone levels more regularly, for consultation as well. It is clear there is not a one size fits all answer here, but it is worth exploring what might work for you.
Develop a broad sexual repertoire – If what you do sexually is limited to vigorous penetration in one position, problems with erections, lubrication, painful intercourse, or even back problems will create a big block to your sex life. However, if you engage in a lot of sexual behaviors, seeking physical pleasure from more than just your genitals, feel comfortable being creative in bed (or out of bed!) with your partner, you will be able to easily work around injuries or other limiting factors. Start expanding your sexual script, don’t rely on the same things each time. Enjoy exploring now and you will always find options to keep you happy later.
Keep sexuality a regular part of your life – You don’t need a partner to keep yourself sexually active; masturbation and fantasy are both great ways to maintain sexual responsiveness. For women, the more you orgasm, the easier it is for you to orgasm later. Also consistent stimulation of the vagina provides healthy blood flow and can help keep the tissues healthy and make future penetration more comfortable. For both men and women, knowing how your body responds, what excites you, and your body’s pathway to orgasm will enhance your sex life with or without a partner. Consciously making time and energy for sex to play a role in your life is key to having a sexy old age. It is up to you!