Doctors Found The G-Spot; Now What?

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Doctors Found The G-Spot; Now What? [EXPERT]
Five steps to take now that you know it's real.

Our culture operates this way regarding sexuality, "sheltering" certain people from information, believing that we cannot handle it. I believe this only serves to increase our sense of shame and fear around sexuality and puts us in a childlike position, seen as unable to process information, and prone to overreact. 5 Sexual Myths That Are Holding You Back

It also makes it difficult for us to make good, educated decisions for ourselves and, taken to an extreme, denies people rights to informed consent and information. I believe in our ability to be sexually informed adults who are able to respond to sexual content without fear and shame, but the conversations we have about sexuality may need to change. I invite you to take ownership of your own sexual experience and pleasure and to become the expert for yourself.

So what should you do if you are curious about your own G-spot potential?

  1. Explore your own body. Take time to touch yourself in different places, alone or with a partner. The G-spot is the area about 2 inches inside your vagina towards the front of your body, easily reached by a finger. You can experiment with applying pressure there and see how it feels for you. Be aware that G-spot stimulation is only reported to feel good once you are already aroused, so go slow, take time to get excited, touch other parts of your body first to increase arousal. Get In Shape For Better Sex
  2. If it doesn't feel good to you, don't worry about it. Okay, so maybe that wasn't very exciting. Some women even find pressure in that spot uncomfortable. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong. You may wish to keep exploring stimulation there from different positions or at different times, or you may wish to drop exploration of this spot altogether. The important thing to remember is that there are many, many pathways to pleasure. Keep exploring your body to find what feels good. It is not about finding a button, it is about mapping all of the terrain.
  3. Don't compare yourself to others. Your sexuality is unique to you. It is not useful to try to perform like a porn star or keep up with your next door neighbor who talks about all the hot sex she is having. If you hear about something that really worked for someone else maybe you will want to try it, but do it for fun not because you think they have got it right and you need lessons. 5 Tips To Help You Decide When To Have Sex
  4. Find a doctor who will talk to you respectfully and openly about sex. If you feel like your doctor is keeping information from you or is dismissive of your personal experience, it is probably time to find a different doctor. You deserve to get accurate, complete information about your body and sexuality and to be able to share what you are feeling.
  5. If sex doesn't feel good, is uncomfortable, or just not as fun as you would like, don't give up. You may just not have found what works for you yet. Seek out someone who will support you and can talk to you about your specific experiences, hopes and concerns rather than generalities meant to apply to everyone. Find someone who is professional and compassionate. This may be a sex therapist, coach, or workshop leader. Slutbashing & Other Things To Know About Men & Sex

Alexander, B. (2012) "Doc claims he's found the G-spot" Vitals on msbc.com. (accessed 4/25/2012)

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Melissa Fritchle, MA, LMFT, is a holistic psychotherapist with a private practice in Capitola, CA specializing in sexuality and couple's issues. She is also an engaging sex educator traveling within the US and globally to support positive sexuality.

Visit her website to read her blog, Conscious Sexual Self, and for upcoming opportunities to connect with Melissa.

www.mf-therapy.com

Location: Capitola, CA
Credentials: LMFT, MA
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, LGBT Issues (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender), Sexuality
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