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"I Want You Just The Way You Are"

Love, Self

Do you want to be married to Mr. Right? Are you trying to change yourself to attract “The One?"

Do you want to be married to Mr. Right? Are you looking for the woman of your dreams? Are you desperately trying to change yourself to attract “The One?”

Have you invested hundreds of dollars in a personal trainer in hopes of making yourself marketable in the singles market? Are you working insane hours to increase your income to be attractive to the opposite sex? Are you trying to be perfect for “him” or “her?”

Stop trying to be perfect; instead, accept that you are perfect today. You don’t need to do anything. You just need to be you. It’s not about the size of your thighs or your bank account. You are perfect just the way you are. If you don’t believe me, believe Billy Joel: “Don’t go changing to try and please me…I want you just the way you are.” That is the way marriage is meant to be.

Can you imagine spending the rest of your life trying to impress your husband or wife? You would be exhausted by your first anniversary. It takes a lot more energy to pretend to be something you are not than to be yourself and be happy. You are not meant to prove yourself to your partner. Your partner is meant to be your biggest fan, for better or for worse. The right Mr. or Mrs. Right is the one who wants you “just the way you are.”

Tip from Tasha The Love Coach:
Are you trying to be perfect to attract “The One?”
Stop trying.
Instead, accept that you are perfect, exactly as you are, to the Right One.

It is my pleasure to serve you in love.
Tasha The Love Coach