Breaking Up and Letting Go


Breaking Up and Letting Go
Breaking up is not easy but sometimes it is for the best.

The thing is that we’ve actually got some stuff figured out. In fact, we’re almost there. If we could just accept that when we break up with someone, or get dumped, or lose our partner that it’s just another natural ebb and flow of relationships, love and life. The old saying is that, we are born alone and we die alone.

We can choose to share our life with one person and hope they stick around or we can be open to the idea that life ebbs and flows, and that what comes may go, and that what comes will eventually go, maybe not today or this decade, but yes eventually and maybe even before our lifetime, and just enjoy today for what it is. And just let it be. Let go and let it be. Letting go in a break up means genuinely wanting our ex to be happy. Hope that they will find peace and serenity in their lives and in their hearts and will be free from pain and unhappiness. We genuinely hope they will live long and prosperous lives. That is letting go, in a nutshell. If you love someone set them free, and want only the best for them.

Being friends? I personally don’t see why not. If both parties can agree, to love and let be then being friends after a break up should be fairly easy. Not always, because people tend to hold on to anger. Many people still wear their abandoned child heart on their sleeve, and each relationship is different. You may find letting go in one relationship easy and more difficult in another (that is if you have several.) And, yes, emotions come up in all types of relationships. But keep the state of letting go close to your heart and in the back of your mind where it’s easily accessible, pull it out when you start to feel anger, resentment, fear, and slowly watch all of your relationships, whether they be romantic ones, familial ones, friends or co-workers, become easier and easier.

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Moushumi Ghose

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Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

She is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

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Mou is the author of Marriage, Money and Porn, available on Amazon, and is currently writing her second book, about non-monogamous sex. 

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