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What Can You Do For Your Sex Life In 31 Days?

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What Can You Do For Your Sex Life In 31 Days?
Kick it into the stratosphere!

Here's the scoop, we all know that having a passionate, active sex life is a good idea. Apart from the obvious benefits of feeling good and staying connected to your partner, there is a whole slew of health-related benefits involved. Sex burns calories, boosts immunity, reduces stress, improves self-esteem, relieves pain, helps you sleep better and even leads to a younger-looking you. Does it sound like I'm talking about a new pharmaceutical product? I promise, I'm not.

All of these health benefits happen naturally when someone has a healthy, active sex life, which is great news. You don't have to pop a pill or see a doctor to have a major impact on your life. According to Dr. Oz, "If you have more than 200 orgasms a year, you can reduce your physiologic age by six years." That's amazing.

He goes on to say that you should be having sex around 200 times a year. That breaks down to roughly sixteen times a month or four times a week. Unfortunately, he also says that the average couple has sex just once a week.

Add to this that American women are, all too often, dissatisfied with their sex lives. A recent YourTango sex survey (we're still collecting data) shows that 65.6 percent of respondents are "somewhat satisfied" to "not at all satisfied" with their sex lives. Earlier this year iVillage reported the same troubling stats, with 63 percent of their respondents feeling that they would rather sleep, watch a movie or read than have sex.

Relationship expert Ian Kerner talked to the "Early Show" about the iVillage results:

"You may say you're happy with your sex life, but in the end, if night after night you're consistently picking a book, TV, Facebook, digital networking, any distraction that's out there over intimacy with your partner, in the long run, your relationship could become vulnerable to things like infidelity. So you have to put sex at the center of your relationship."

We completely agree. As with many things, though we know it's good for us, we're still not doing it! From the looks of it, women want more sex and better sex; we just need a little help to get there. That's where our 31-Day Better Sex Challenge comes in—to help us all achieve a little less talk and a lot more action, so to speak.

Given our strong community of experts, we at YourTango are poised and ready to help women have the sex lives they want and need. Who better to learn from than relationship experts like Dr. John Gray (author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus), couples therapist and author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel, eminent marriage and family therapist Dr. Diana Kirschner,and clinical sexologist and acclaimed media personality Dr. Ava Cadell.

Every day throughout October, our experts will share their advice on how to create a vibrant sex life—one that works just for you.

We'll cover such topics as:

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Commit! Become a part of our community, identify your support people & begin connecting with our experts.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Identify three areas you want to see improvement in your sex life.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Extend the challenge beyond October by seeding your calendar with reminders of what you've learned and when to do them!

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

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