For the love of God, stop winking! Have a professional give your profile a makeover. Learn how to write non-generic sounding messages. (Because you were probably just copying and pasting; weren't you?) Decide on your top ten most important criteria, and don't date anyone who doesn't fit the bill.
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Avoid online dating burnout...
When I coach clients who are on the "never-ending" bad date spiral, chances are, what's really happening is that your attitude and behavior are being impacted by your disappointment, sadness and anger about your situation. In this scenario, the only solution is to take a break to reconnect with a more loving, positive part of yourself who can begin to draw in more compatible matches.
What's happening is that the expectation of a bad match has taken over the hope that you'll find love. At any time, if you have the sense that you're a great catch but you're just not drawing in the "right kinds" of mates, it's time to take a pause to see what the problem is: could your profile use an objective re-do? Enlist an honest friend to help. Perhaps you should try a different service, or perhaps you should change up your online habits altogether: do you usually wait for a man to contact you? Why not try reaching out to him instead? Above all else, know that you're worth of finding a match and carry yourself in that way, on and offline. 6 Secret Places To Meet Men
The trick here is to not be afraid of missing the right person when you take your break. Trust that by doing this that you'll turn on the light inside of you that more closely matches your true self. Then your "luck" at finding a match will one again begin to soar.
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—Melanie Gorman, Counselor/Therapist