If your answer is, "A whining, needy, lost individual," then the intention being placed in the world is that you believe that you have lost something valuable of yourself though the divorce; somehow you're less than who you were before. To genuinely thrive, you have to change what you believe to be true about your story. Yes, it was painful and yes, you lost things. Yes, you made mistakes and yes, you played a part in your marriage's demise. But, that does not doom you to a life that's less than wonderful.
To change what you attract to your life, you can practice setting positive, healing intentions to attract more of the experiences you desire. They are not quick fixes, but rather lifestyle choices to plant the seeds for the life you're longing for. By doing work like this, you're setting your focus on the light at the end of the divorce tunnel instead of overly focusing on the pain in the moment. 10 Things You Should Never Say To A Divorced Woman
Here are the five intentions you need to set in order to design and craft a life you love:
Intention 1: Don't make life-altering decisions based on emotions. Park your emotions and make conscious choices about what you want your future to look like. Then, set your course based on these rational choices. Try writing out choices before acting on them and letting those thoughts sit for a few days before doing anything with them. If you still feel the same way after your feelings subside, it's a good indication that logically you agree with your feelings.
Intention 2: Think new. Don't recycle old belief systems. They no longer serve you. If you think like you used to, you'll be filtering all your decisions through your old way of being instead of creating something new. Let your mind and heart explore what a life would be like without the limitations you have in place. Resist the urge to put yourself in a box from your past and try to be bold and brave about the life you really want. 8 Signs You Need To Break Up With Your Ex
Intention 3: Surround yourself with energetic, positive people who will support your decisions and help prune your life of toxic relationships. If looking around, you find that your friend, family and support people do not line up with your new thinking and beliefs, look for new friends. While making friends may not seem on the surface like an easy thing to do, even you can learn a new trick or two!
Intention 4: Figure out what energizes you and design your life around your energizers. The mental and emotional toll of divorce takes a lot out of people and you're going to need more energy now than you imagine. Rest your mind and body, and listen to your inner voice that tells you what makes you feel good and what zaps you of your luster. How To Break Free From Your Ex [VIDEO]
Intention 5: Finally, work on deciding what you want for your future. Think big thoughts and dream outside of the box you've been in. If you are missing people to support you, figure out who they are and start to cultivate those relationships.
Every morning before you dive into the deep end of the day, set your intentions. What do you intend to happen in every aspect of your life (body, mind and spirit) in order to make these 5 points a reality? What do you intend to do as a person, partner, parent, sibling, staffer? Setting intentions as a framework for how you make choices each day makes it much easier to stay on target and make great change by choice happen. They will plant the seeds and nourish a life you love. Creating Your Own Happiness
The time after a divorce is really a fruitful time for people who embrace the idea of creating the life they dream of. Yes, there is pain in divorce, but your life moving forward does not have to be designed by the story you now hold true in your mind. If you intend to get the best out of life, you will. By its very nature, intentions hold the power to bring in the challenges, obstacles and opportunities to craft a life you can be proud of. Making that happen is all up to you. The great news is that regardless of where you are today, you can make a decision at any point to change your intentions for your life and write a new ending.
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