Introducing YourTango Experts Spotlight: Love And Money 2011


money dollars heart
Money is a major force in most relationships—this week, Experts teach us how to harness its power.

When it comes to love, one of the hardest areas for couples to successfully, and harmoniously, navigate is their wallets. It's well known that money is a leading cause of divorce. And in the therapist's office, a well-tested belief is that sex and money are two of the most important issues to talk over—so much so that the belief is that if you're not talking about sex and money, someone (and maybe it's the therapist) is in denial!

What is it about money that gets our blood boiling? Our hearts pumping? Our shame meters tilting? On some level, the power that "money" holds over us is purely symbolic. Money itself is simply a line item on our bank statements, yet that set of numbers serves as a symbol for status, freedom, control, happiness and liberty. We believe those who have money are better off than those who don't, and we work tirelessly to increase the comfort levels of our checkbooks. It's no wonder that miscommunication, mismanagement and mistakes around our cash flow keep people awake at night and cause countless arguments in relationships. Sometimes it even prevents people from being in relationships—the shame of past mistakes or never-ending debt can bring even the strongest person to their knees.

We took this powerful issue to our YourTango Experts and asked them to share with readers 7 days-worth of intensive advice on how to take back the control money has over your life and relationships. In the spirit of our past challenges (31 Days To A Better Sex Life & the 31-Day Love Life Makeover) we wanted to bring you a diverse, educated set of articles that would shine a spotlight on the powerful role of money in relationships—and offer helpful advice on how to make that power work for you.

Over the next 7 days, we will share a new article each day that addresses some of the most common love and money issues. We'll tackle how we communicate about money, how debt may be ruining your love life, habits of financially healthy couples, dealing with breadwinner relationships and finally, how to recover from an unexpected financial emergency.

Experts will be around all week to answer questions and connect with you about any issues you may be facing and how you can take ownership of this sometimes painful, and always powerful, issue. You can find them here.

So join us daily as dive in to one of the most prolific issues affecting love today: money. Follow this week-long spotlight.

Get started with today's post: Get Real: How Are Finances Affecting Your Love Life?

Article contributed by

Melanie Gorman

Business Coach

Melanie Gorman, M.A.

SR. VP YourTango Experts

Phone: 410-923-6905

Location: Crownsville, MD
Credentials: MA
Specialties: Career, Communication Problems, Empowering Women
Other Articles/News by Melanie Gorman:

Ladies, Great Sex Really Can Make Your Relationship Stronger!

By , , , ,

Okay, we have to admit that we're totally hopeless romantics. Just the thought of having a relationship where we get butterflies every single time we're with our partner puts a smile on our face; it makes us want to believe that real love is all about connecting with someone without the physical. But one thing that people don't realize is that sex ... Read more

Getting Over His Affair Won't Be Easy, But There Are Ways To Deal

By , , , ,

After all of the anniversaries and memories, finding out that your husband broke his wedding vows by cheating on you is such a hard thing to deal with. There's nothing worse than feeling like you've been betrayed and that you lost your lover and best friend. And who could blame you? After spending so many years with the love of your life and raising a ... Read more

So, Is There A Cheat Sheet On Making Love Last Forever?

By , , , ,

In what is shaping up to be the sweetest surprise of the year, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie finally decided to "make it official". With 10 years (and a growing family) under their belt, seeing how in love they are totally gives us hope. Even after being together for years, there's something beautiful about still being able to get that feeling of ... Read more

See More

Latest Expert Videos
Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Most Popular