Creating A Happy Marriage

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Creating A Happy Marriage

“Express your love daily in words, deeds, delicious kisses and warm embraces. Tell each other what you want and need. Expressing clear expectations is one of the greatest gifts you can give each other. This helps lessen disappointments and avoid misunderstandings.” ~Ross & Val McKinley, Marriage Educators

“Although our differences are very apparent and easy to recognize when we're naked, research has proven that brain chemistry and hormone diversity exists, too. Learning to understand and appreciate our not-so-obvious differences and how to speak and respond in the language of the opposite sex is the key to building successful marriages. ~John Gray, author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

“Real giving is when we give to our spouses what's important to them --- whether we understand it, like it, agree with it, or not!” ~Michele Weiner-Davis, author of The Sex Starved Marriage & founder of the Divorce Busting Center

“Fun in marriage is serious business. We never met a couple on the way to divorce court who were having fun.” ~David & Claudia Arp, co-authors of 10 Great Dates

“Husbands and wives cannot cultivate anything lasting with each other until they first cultivate a healthy relationship with God. So have faith. Keep faith. Cultivate faith. ~Edward C. Lee, author of Husbands, Wives, God: Introducing the Marriages of the Bible to Your Marriage

“Committing to staying calm is the first key to committing to staying married” ~ Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of Scream Free Parenting and founder of the Scream Free Institute

“The five most important words describing a husband’s calling in marriage: Proactively create a happy marriage. Start with giving your wife twenty hugs, kisses and compliments each day. The five most important words describing a wife’s calling in marriage: Proactively respond to husband’s efforts. When he hugs you, receive it and hug back. When he kisses you, receive it and kiss him back. When he compliments you, thank him and compliment back.” ~Joel & Kathy Davisson, authors of The Man of Her Dreams, The Woman of His

“Love and Laughter go hand in hand...When people complement each other, laughter lives; when people compete with one another, laughter dies. To sustain love and laughter like you did in the ‘Honeymoon Stage’, remember the “Performer/Audience” concept. In each situation, there must be both a ‘performer’ and an ‘audience’ for a positive attraction to occur. Like magnets, opposites are stronger. Identify your own strengths and recognize that when you and your partner have competing strengths, it can result in loss of attraction. Choose to focus on the positives in each situation rather than dwell on the negatives. Even in tragedy, dig down deep for something good and always find the “Hero” in your partner.” ~ Yakov Smirnoff, comedian and featured relationship advice columnist for AARP

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