Ways To Hook Him Or Her Online

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Ways To Hook Him Or Her Online
A better profile gives you a better chance at getting noticed.

There are so many dating sites and so many singles online - how can you stand out?


Think about business branding as a concept. Branding serves 4 functions:


1 - to help the customer remember the product
2 - to convey a complex message quickly
3 - to help the customer distinguish your product from a similar product
4 - to create positive appeal to entice someone to BUY the product


If you are on an online dating site, YOU are the product!


Why should someone be interested in you? You are a fabulous person, but how can you demonstration how wonderful you are across a computer screen in the brief time someone of the opposite sex scans a profile?


It's hard to do and many singles are frustrated with their profiles AND those they read.
Make yours stand out! Here is how.


FIRST - Come up with a dazzling screen/user name and headline. Don't rush to do this. It may take a few days to come up with a great one. You must think of adjectives that describe you. Ask a friend to help.


Take out a sheet of paper and make three columns. In Column 1 write PHYSICAL TRAITS. In Column 2 label it PERSONALITY TRAITS. In Column 3 write OTHER.
In the column for PHYSICAL, write down all the adjectives and phrases that describe your appearance. Examples of this section would have things like tall, curvy, thin, blonde, voluptuous, fit, elegant, Asian (White, Black, Latino, etc.), great teeth, wavy hair. Keep writing until you have an extensive list about your look, including how you dress (i.e. casual, elegant, preppy).


In the PERSONALITY column, write down adjectives that describe how you act and feel. For example, write down things like shy, feisty, sassy, low-maintenance, honest, witty, sarcastic.


In the column marked OTHER, put everything else there is about you down on paper, such as religion, birthplace, profession, sports or talents and other things. This section will have words like Christian, skier, Redskins fan, Ohio Native, single mom, chess champion, reality show junkie, etc.


Be honest. You can write down negative things about you as well. The goal is to have a long list of things that describe you.


You should even use the thesaurus function in MS WORD to see how to describe some of the words in a different way, i.e. tall can become statuesque.


Now comes the fun part! Pick THREE words (one from each column) that feel the best to you and are an accurate reflection of you.


One of my male clients did this exercise and he chose "Witty Boston Chef" and used it as his headline on his profile.


Try a few combinations and see what feels right.


SECOND - Write an interesting Body of your profile


Your profile is not a time to talk about what you won't tolerate in a relationship or what happened in your past. Your profile is where you establish your PRODUCT/BRAND that will make the reader want to know more. You should be brief, be positive, and be unique. You ARE unique. There is no one else exactly like you and that is what you want to come across.

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