Being Single and Dating Can Be Scary

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Being Single and Dating  Can Be Scary
Being newly single and dating can be scary, but it also opens up a whole new world of opportunity

Being newly single can be scary, but it also opens up a whole new world of opportunity. Consider all the men that you never noticed while you were in a relationship. You may be surprised by whom you might connect with

1. The guy you see every morning on your way to work: It used to be that you’d have to rush out the door, coffee mug in one hand, keys in the other, bag in your mouth, unable to even acknowledge his presence. But now that you’re finally out of your post-break up haze colors are brighter, flowers smell sweeter, and that guy you share the elevator car with looks cuter than usual. He’s been there every morning since you first moved into the building. You’ve exchanged glances, but you were always too preoccupied to get his name. Now you might think that too much time has passed for you to show interest in him but you’ll never know unless you try. Spark up some conversation, whether it’s about the weather forecast for the day or how eager you are for the weekend to start. No matter what you try, just make sure you get each other’s names.

2. Your ex-coworker: Whether or not you want to admit it to yourself, there was that one guy at your last job that was kind of like your “work husband”. You shared inside jokes, went to lunch together, and even sang a karaoke duet at a work outing. You always kept a professional distance but the connection between the two of you was undeniable. Not only are you now single, but also, you’re no longer working for the same company. Meeting up for dinner or drinks wouldn’t be violating any company rules. Plus, you already have a rapport with each other. Who knows, maybe the mild flirtation that happened by the water cooler may actually lead to something.

3. The guy at the grocery store that likes the same olive oil as you: You see him almost every weekend as you lazily peruse the aisles for your next week’s meals. When you were single, going out in your sweatshirt and gym shorts seemed like appropriate attire. Now that you’ve figured out his schedule (and his favorite foods), you’re making more of an effort, making sure your eyeliner’s not smudged and your hair has that effortless “I’m not even trying” look to it. The same way Scar-Jo picked up Bradley Cooper in “He’s Just Not That Into You”, if you have the chance, strike up the conversation while you’re waiting in the check out line.
 

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