Go into topics like marriage, kids, etc. If you and your boyfriend haven’t had this discussion yet, an open forum in front of his closest friends is certainly not the time or the place. This can lead to awkward questions, terrible silences, and potential fights once you two are alone. Such matters are absolutely personal, between you and him alone, and to talk about babies or marriage makes you seem like a commitment crazy girl; certainly not the type these guys want their best bud involved with.
Talk about what you know. It’s easy to fall into the trap of pretending you know about their favorite sports teams. Sure, you throw out the word “touch down” and the guys will worship you, right? But what will you say when they ask you about Sunday’s game? Probably stutter. It can get old, listening to guys discuss topics about which you have no interest. But rather than forcing your way into “the boys’ club,” take an opportunity to discuss something you really do care about, like current events, or a TV show you watch with your man when he has the remote.
Bring up anything personal about your boyfriend, even if you think it might be funny. Sure, your boy might squeal like a schoolgirl when you tickle his ribs. But when a man lets his guard down, and you take advantage of a potentially embarrassing fact for his friends’ amusement, he’s the only one not laughing, and you may have potentially damaged his trust in you. It may seem tempting to reveal that he LOVES “Say Yes to The Dress,” but it’s just not worth it. Look for other common ground, don’t resort to cheap sucker punches.
Be your own awesome self. Some girls think they should try to stay out of the spotlight when around Boyfriend & Co., and some even make the fatal mistake of turning into the Terrible Cuddle Monster. But your boyfriend wants to show you off! There’s a difference between garrulous and talkative, one you shouldn’t cross, but don’t be afraid to demonstrate what makes you so amazing and lovable.
Be flirtatious, in any way, shape, or form. Guys like to joke, and while it may seem amusing, an ego is easily bruised. It’s fine to be friendly with the guys; they might wind up being your friends too, if all goes well. But don’t cross that fine line, or an opportunity to seriously impress your boyfriend and his pals might turn into the crux of a bigger issue.
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