Is Your Password Strong?


Is Your Password Strong?
How do you tell the difference between a man who wants you, and a man who wants to be with you?

At least considering having some kind of entry code for your private parts is in order, given all that is at stake! Okay you’re thinking, well then, you can’t be stupid and use your birthday or anyone’s birthday you know, your kid’s name, your pet’s name or your social security number, and no one would be so obtuse as to use the numbers of their address or zip code because we all know these are the easy marks for people who want to take advantage. All right, let’s focus, obviously that’s not the kind of password we are talking about. This is a metaphor. Keeping with the theme, here are some passwords you may want to avoid and some that are worth considering:

Here are some very low-strength passwords:


What’s your number?

You look like my future!

Can I buy you a drink?

You turn me on so much!

I can’t stop thinking about you…

I want you!

Can I come up?

Maybe I’ll call you sometime… (said after first date)

‘Night, darling…He calls you before he goes to bed (but are you the only one he’s calling?)

All of the above one-liners are designed to get you in the sack: for every genuine guy, 99.9% of millions of others want to break your code and see how fast they can do it. Especially a guy who doesn’t want a relationship. Which, by the way, should be your first question (given the statistics, the odds of him telling the truth are slim to none if he thinks you’ll hop in the sack sooner rather than later). Watch his feet and hands, what he does and what he says, and see if they match. Tough to do after the fact! Words like this are empty gestures, and almost always lead to you being dumped—or, at minimum, the relationship fizzles out. Do the math. Look at your history. You don’t respect your sacred self, guess what? Neither will he. If you have been down this road and are tired of the results, feeling bad about yourself…again, time to get some self-esteem going, ladies. Let them look but don’t touch. Plenty of time for that after you collect your facts. You deserve to be with a really great person!

Medium strength

I have never felt this way before!

We’ve been on three dates, come on!

You make me so hot, why would you deny yourself?

My friends all like you.

I am a great guy.

I love you (exclusively when said while naked)

These are common and compelling scenarios, but none of them are real indicators of anything that takes much effort on his part. The three-date rule is ridiculous, and if you fall for it, you lose. For gals, collecting notches on your bedpost isn’t anything to feel good about unless you work at a dude ranch. Have some self-respect and don’t be an idiot. Know who you’re with. Slow down and get some more details and experience with this person. Plenty of time for all-nighters later!

This article was originally published at Maryanne Live . Reprinted with permission.
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Maryanne Comaroto


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